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Do People Like You? Why don't people like me, is there something wrong with me?

Astridlora
over 5 years ago

As I've got older - 22 now - I've found that people don't really like me. At work people smile and chat sometimes but I always feel an awkwardness atmosphere.. at school I had no friends, people never wanted to be around me despite me trying many times to talk and make new friends Disappointed . I'm curious as to whether you have any friends and if you notice if people like or avoid you. At work I get spoken to but it feels forced and I just feel really sad because I'm alone and no one wants to get to know me and like me.

I'm a fun friendly girl, I'm thin could possibly eat a bit more but I try my best. I have dreams of becoming a mum someday and settling down with someone, but I just don't see that happening. Is there something wrong with me because I'm like a plague which everyone avoids.

Parents
  • over 5 years ago

    Hello A, sorry to read you have experienced this and are feeling this way; no there is nothing wrong with you, it is highly likely that the people you come into contact with do not feel equipped themselves. Younger people find it particularly difficult to relate with anyone they percieve as different to them, ideally they need to recognise this and develop their skills - this usually comes with a bit of age and experience.  You could also develop your social skills to try and build on how you communicate with others.  Social skills are not something we can aquire and tick off the list as done; it takes many years of practice for everyone to develop these skills - its kind of ongoing for a long time; also, if you dont socialise for a while, it can feel like starting all over again sometimes. 

    Have you tried joining any groups in your area to be among other people on the spectrum?  Guess it kind of helps sometimes to be with those who get it. 

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hello A, sorry to read you have experienced this and are feeling this way; no there is nothing wrong with you, it is highly likely that the people you come into contact with do not feel equipped themselves. Younger people find it particularly difficult to relate with anyone they percieve as different to them, ideally they need to recognise this and develop their skills - this usually comes with a bit of age and experience.  You could also develop your social skills to try and build on how you communicate with others.  Social skills are not something we can aquire and tick off the list as done; it takes many years of practice for everyone to develop these skills - its kind of ongoing for a long time; also, if you dont socialise for a while, it can feel like starting all over again sometimes. 

    Have you tried joining any groups in your area to be among other people on the spectrum?  Guess it kind of helps sometimes to be with those who get it. 

Children
  • over 5 years ago in reply to NAS62936

    Hi, i am so  very sorry for the delay in responding to you. I hope you don't think I was being rude. I only just saw this comment.

    Thank you so much for your response, I really appreciate it Slight smile . I think my social skills are very bad, they always have been. The only person I really connected well with was my mum. I struggled to connect with my dad, but with mum it was easy, she was lovely.
    Sadly now my skills of socialising seem even worse, I find it hard to talk to anybody.

    I haven't looked to be honest, but I fear I'd have a panic attack if I joined a group. Although it would be nice to get to know some people on the spectrum. I am very lonely. My problem now, I think, is my mum was the only person who really understood me and now she's gone, it's so hard.

    Astridlora. X