Relationships with others on the spectrum

Hi everyone, 

I am a 17 year old girl and I am struggling a bit with relationships with boys - I am sorry if this is a bit TMI but I wanted to see if anyone else felt the same way.

Unlike a lot of my peers, I haven't done anything with the opposite sex, which I myself am fine about as I have no real desire or interest to. But I feel like I am being left behind from everyone else. I have high functioning autism and I put on a very good act to blend in with everyone ( very tiring!).  Is it okay/ normal to feel this way? I feel so incredibly weird and although my mum, who I love dearly, is so lovely about it I don't think she really understands.

I have met a lovely boy, he is very respectful but he, like any normal teen boy, is wanting to have sex. I feel awful and don't want to upset/disappoint him but I honestly do not know what to do! I am quite happy and fine to be on my own and just get on with life as it is hard enough without these extra stresses!

Any advice/ comments would be really welcomed x

Parents
  • Never start a relationship, have sex, or even get involved with anyone, because you feel obliged. You can have all of those when you are ready, it's not a rite of passage, or requirement.

    Things never work out when your hearts not in it! You will know when it's the right time, or person. You might never want any of it!

    It's important to be happy with the situation and person, otherwise you can't both be happy. Hope it works out whatever you choose!

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  • Never start a relationship, have sex, or even get involved with anyone, because you feel obliged. You can have all of those when you are ready, it's not a rite of passage, or requirement.

    Things never work out when your hearts not in it! You will know when it's the right time, or person. You might never want any of it!

    It's important to be happy with the situation and person, otherwise you can't both be happy. Hope it works out whatever you choose!

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