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Where do I go from here-life is falling apart

NAS62726

I find myself aged 30, jobless, single and living with parents. This time last year I was renting, earning 33k a year and had a partner....but o was even more unhappy then I am now.

im a qualified social worker. I have a 6 year old son.

i was diagnosed after a private assessment with Aspergers. 

I hate living with my parents in some ways. I miss my freedom and independence. However when I lived alone I was even more unhappy as I found maintaining a household almost impossible. I became obsessed with cleaning and overwhelmed with the fact cleaning was my responsibility, bills stressed me out, I found being the only one to entertain my son exhausting as he’s a lovely child but like all children needs almost constant entertainment and attention. 

‘I want a job but when I’ve had a job I’ve never lasted long. The manager never seems to like me and while I can maintain normality in a job I find after a few days my mask starts to slip and I become exhausted, anxious and demotivated. When working 3 days a week I find I can just about cope but that’s not going to enable me to buy my own home. 

‘I’m currently on universal credit and absolutely skint. I get no disability benefits and feel I mask so well I’d never get them. 

‘I’ve got an interview for a full time job in a few weeks. It’s a subject I’m interested in so I figured it’s better than nothing as being unemployed makes me miserable. But in reality I think I will find full time work hard.

no one knows I have Aspergers. My parents would be unsupportive and I’ve no friends. 

Im honestly sat here crying because I genuinely don’t know what to do.

I am limited as I can’t drive but I fail at that too. 

‘Honestly, if you were me what would you do? Where do I start.

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    I'm sorry that I don't have any useful advice but I am in a similar situation to you. I quit my job in Jan and have returned to full-time education as I needed a time out to figure things out. I was diagnosed in Oct 2017 and I've been miserable in work (even working 4 days a week). I've been unable to find any useful supporting resources to help me overcome the challenges I face, thus, I keep repeating the same mistakes, leading me to jump from job to job due to feelings of isolation and worthlessness. 

    Although you think you wont get PIP, it's worth filling in the form. I worked as a teacher, plus I'm now studying a PHD and I've received the enhanced rate for years. They ask you to send in photocopies of any supporting evidence, such as your autism report, OH reports etc. I do this and highlight what evidence relates to which points on the form e.g page 8 of the OH report states I need to use screen tinting software to be able to read text on a computer due to being diagnosed with Irlen syndrome. This means a lot of the assessment is based on your ability to write what you'd like them to know. Receiving PIP would not only entitle you to this source of income but it would also open up the disability enhancement of other benefits covered in your universal credit. This may give you enough money to take some time to think about what you really need.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    I'm sorry that I don't have any useful advice but I am in a similar situation to you. I quit my job in Jan and have returned to full-time education as I needed a time out to figure things out. I was diagnosed in Oct 2017 and I've been miserable in work (even working 4 days a week). I've been unable to find any useful supporting resources to help me overcome the challenges I face, thus, I keep repeating the same mistakes, leading me to jump from job to job due to feelings of isolation and worthlessness. 

    Although you think you wont get PIP, it's worth filling in the form. I worked as a teacher, plus I'm now studying a PHD and I've received the enhanced rate for years. They ask you to send in photocopies of any supporting evidence, such as your autism report, OH reports etc. I do this and highlight what evidence relates to which points on the form e.g page 8 of the OH report states I need to use screen tinting software to be able to read text on a computer due to being diagnosed with Irlen syndrome. This means a lot of the assessment is based on your ability to write what you'd like them to know. Receiving PIP would not only entitle you to this source of income but it would also open up the disability enhancement of other benefits covered in your universal credit. This may give you enough money to take some time to think about what you really need.

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