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Counselling

venusinmars

How would you feel if you sense your partner is more attached to his/her counsellor than what's necessary when they are technically no longer in need of the counselling itself?

  • in reply to blank_smile

    Yes - it's easy to talk to a counsellor - no pressure to perform, everything he says is accepted without judgement, no having to play the NT game and filter everything he really thinks, no politics and lies.

    It can be quite addictive.

  • venusinmars said:
    It wasn't until he said he would not "miss her"

    Sorry for the misunderstanding but do you mean he would miss her? You then go on the explain that you think a bond has been formed?

    If you believe an inappropriate bond has been formed have you ruled out/considered the below:

    • Seeing the counselor has become routine and familiar for him
    • It might be a place he can share things he wants to say to you but cannot find the right words
    • Your feelings are valid because you are feeling them but are you judging his behaviour of that of a NT person?
    • Depression and autism are very closely linked - you cannot tackle one without considering the other
    • Have you communicated your worries in a concise, logical way to him - in a way that would not request an emotional response?