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Removing 'the mask'

NAS62726

As a female currently trying to cope with life I am wondering how others cope with their 'masking' of symptoms.

For me, I have found I immediately fake a smile and make an effort to have interesting conversation and must stay alert during conversation inorder to present as normal. I have found particular problems with work. I can easily get a job. I am good at interviews and can keep my performance going for upto a month on average but then I will slowly or suddenly start to decline. I miss deadlines, I feel exhausted, stressed, disorganised, unmotivated and my work performance just gets worse. I have never lasted more than 7 months in a job.

What does 'masking' look like to you? 

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  • Same for me - I can put on the performance and get through any interview.   I mask very well so pass for 'normal / nice chap'  most of the time.

    Unfortunately, when I start the job, it's the lies, secrets, falseness, politics, rule breaking, incompetence and general bad behaviour of the other staff that wears me out.   I'm having to try to work out WTF is going on and how can a company run / make profit with this bunch of chancers?

    My competence, knowledge, abilities and adherence to the rules gradually start to make the other people notice that I'm different.   Being a stickler for the rules is the big one - most of the chancers play fast & loose with honesty so falsifying data is considered normal - so they don't like it when their fake data is not accepted.   

    My ability to play nice and pretend to fit in starts to wear thin and soon they could discover my weaknesses if they were paying attention - if i was put into a difficult situation, i might not have a pre-prepared, standard answer - there would not be an appropriate mode for my mask. 

    I'm lucky that I was working on my own most of the time, but even with the limited interaction with the chancers, I've found it takes about 5 years from starting the job to being found out, to being an outcast, or a target for bullying.

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  • Same for me - I can put on the performance and get through any interview.   I mask very well so pass for 'normal / nice chap'  most of the time.

    Unfortunately, when I start the job, it's the lies, secrets, falseness, politics, rule breaking, incompetence and general bad behaviour of the other staff that wears me out.   I'm having to try to work out WTF is going on and how can a company run / make profit with this bunch of chancers?

    My competence, knowledge, abilities and adherence to the rules gradually start to make the other people notice that I'm different.   Being a stickler for the rules is the big one - most of the chancers play fast & loose with honesty so falsifying data is considered normal - so they don't like it when their fake data is not accepted.   

    My ability to play nice and pretend to fit in starts to wear thin and soon they could discover my weaknesses if they were paying attention - if i was put into a difficult situation, i might not have a pre-prepared, standard answer - there would not be an appropriate mode for my mask. 

    I'm lucky that I was working on my own most of the time, but even with the limited interaction with the chancers, I've found it takes about 5 years from starting the job to being found out, to being an outcast, or a target for bullying.

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