Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
My name is Kyle and I'm 32 years old. I am not diagnosed with autism or Asperger's, but I believe I have It or possibly something closely connected to it. My biggest problem is socialising, I can write to my hearts content in a message conversation but when it comes to physically being around someone to talk to I hardly say a word, and I'm not a very confident person either so it has taken a lot to even come on here and write this message. I tried getting diagnosed through the NHS, and was told by the nurse it was worth getting diagnosed. but nearly 7 months later there is nothing, I got in contact with her again about 3 months later and said her organisation couldn't help and she would get in contact with a couple of others that could, but once again I never heard anything. I tried contacting her for a third time but I can't get through to her, it's like she's intentionally ignoring me, along with the fact my girlfriend left me yesterday after just over a year. all that combined has left me feeling alone and trapped because I have no friends and no one to talk to. Is there anyone that could spare an hour or two of their day to talk to me through out the week?
Is it worth going for a private diagnosis? I work full time for an agency so I could afford it and because of my situation I'm desperate to just be around people like me. I do have a social group for my area but they are in different places all the time and one is in a pub, and I don't like loud places so I'm very reluctant to go.
I decide to go private and got my diagnosis that way. It was worth the money because it made sense of a lot of my life. With the diagnosis I also felt able to make a declaration to my new employer and the institution I work for have been super.
Of course, with a diagnosis doesn't come a social life and I still struggle terribly with any long term social interaction. Someone suggested meetup and that is the one place I was able to meet people I felt comfortable being round - via a boardgames meetup . I haven't been to the group in a long time because of other commitments but nonetheless I can recommend looking on there.
If a diagnosis is important to you (which I can understand) and you can afford it then go the private route.
Thank you for your input and advice, I'm definitely going the private route as I would like it done quicker. And like you I know I'll never be a sociable person because I've always struggled with that but I just feel like I need to be around people like me, almost a desperate feeling because of having someone there everyday and then for that to suddenly stop.
I was recomended that website by someone else on here and had a look, and it's something I want to look at doing.