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PureLight

Hi. I am a 36yr old female with AS and like a lot of people on the spectrum I hate being hugged or touched in anyway.

The problem I am having is how to convey this to other people. I don't no why but people just seem to hug me without asking. This can be anyone from relatives to total strangers and now I am angry and confused.

When anyone touches me or gets into my personal space I experience sensory overload and an overhwlming sense of fear.  Unfortunately, because I have difficulty in predicting what the other person will do, they often grab hold of me before I have had chance to stop them 

My gut reaction is to lash out at them as my reflexes are completely hyper but I know that this is not acceptable.  How do I let them know that I don't like to be touched and for those that do it without asking, how can I react to them without being aggressive.  I need to be able to stop them before the event happens but I don;t know how - short of wearing a "do not touch" sign on my head!

I am getting as I don't want to go out alone now for fear of getting into difficulties but staying in alll day makes me angry and frustrated.

Any help would be greatly appreciated as I am just about at the end of my tether

Many thanks

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  • PureLight said:

    Hi. I am a 36yr old female with AS and like a lot of people on the spectrum I hate being hugged or touched in anyway.

    The problem I am having is how to convey this to other people. I don't no why but people just seem to hug me without asking. This can be anyone from relatives to total strangers and now I am angry and confused.

    When anyone touches me or gets into my personal space I experience sensory overload and an overhwlming sense of fear.  Unfortunately, because I have difficulty in predicting what the other person will do, they often grab hold of me before I have had chance to stop them 

    My gut reaction is to lash out at them as my reflexes are completely hyper but I know that this is not acceptable.  How do I let them know that I don't like to be touched and for those that do it without asking, how can I react to them without being aggressive.  I need to be able to stop them before the event happens but I don;t know how - short of wearing a "do not touch" sign on my head!

    I am getting as I don't want to go out alone now for fear of getting into difficulties but staying in alll day makes me angry and frustrated.

    Any help would be greatly appreciated as I am just about at the end of my tether

    Many thanks

    I don't have a diagnosis. But I'm a 29yr old male. If someone invades the space near my head I have a massive sense of fear and turn voilent. Someone got in my face at school, so I put them in a bin once. I am usually very timid, bar a bit of bravado in the workplace (just to set boundaries).

    I don't know what you can do, but I understand what your saying and it's a nightmare situation.

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  • PureLight said:

    Hi. I am a 36yr old female with AS and like a lot of people on the spectrum I hate being hugged or touched in anyway.

    The problem I am having is how to convey this to other people. I don't no why but people just seem to hug me without asking. This can be anyone from relatives to total strangers and now I am angry and confused.

    When anyone touches me or gets into my personal space I experience sensory overload and an overhwlming sense of fear.  Unfortunately, because I have difficulty in predicting what the other person will do, they often grab hold of me before I have had chance to stop them 

    My gut reaction is to lash out at them as my reflexes are completely hyper but I know that this is not acceptable.  How do I let them know that I don't like to be touched and for those that do it without asking, how can I react to them without being aggressive.  I need to be able to stop them before the event happens but I don;t know how - short of wearing a "do not touch" sign on my head!

    I am getting as I don't want to go out alone now for fear of getting into difficulties but staying in alll day makes me angry and frustrated.

    Any help would be greatly appreciated as I am just about at the end of my tether

    Many thanks

    I don't have a diagnosis. But I'm a 29yr old male. If someone invades the space near my head I have a massive sense of fear and turn voilent. Someone got in my face at school, so I put them in a bin once. I am usually very timid, bar a bit of bravado in the workplace (just to set boundaries).

    I don't know what you can do, but I understand what your saying and it's a nightmare situation.

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