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Any women with autism on here who aren't suicidal and feel happy with their lives?

NAS62611

I would really like to speak with one.

Not to be super bleak but many of the people I identified with in my life, the kind of people you'd say, 'we're alike' even if you weren't that close, are now dead. I have to ask why that is. One of only two other women with autism who I knew died recently of an overdose (The other does not seem to like me much and we no longer talk).

The feeling that 'we' are not made for this world, and how are we meant to get along in it, are very common and the evidence as I have witnessed and lived it thus far suggests probably true. Is any woman with autism here living a life they are happy with?  Is anyone here 'okay'? I would really like to have an honest conversation with another woman whose life doesn't suck - and how that came about. NOT performatively - no bullshit designed to make me feel better in the short term regardless of reality.  If you are an adult woman with autism and your life genuinely doesn't suck, can we chat?

Thanks peeps

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  • Yes, happy to chat.

    I'm 57, new to this forum and happy as an Aspie. My approach to life is 'it is what it is' and I put my welfare and peace of mind first these days. I don't socialise as it emotionally drains me for days afterwards, so I don't do it - same with anything else that I've come to recognise as 'not my thing'

    I was dx a long time ago and am now used to 'me being me' - relationships have come and gone as I can't maintain them, so I have a dog instead - and my blood pressure thanks me...

    I have 'in' days and 'out' days depending on how I feel - if it's an 'in' day because I'm feeling stressed then so be it - I treat myself to a DVD or just faff about on the computer. On days I 'have' to go out and know I will get stressed I reward myself with 'in' days doing bug..r all Slight smile

    I don't even try to 'fit in' - I long ago came to the conclusion I was happier NOT fitting in - I don't view being on my own as a bad thing - I do what I want when I want., eat when and what I want, have full control of the remote - I'm 100% bachelor girl - I believe our view of somehow thinking we 'should' fit in is basically what causes the stress - it's like pushing water uphill.

    I don't have much of what NT's push as being a measure of success - I live in social housing and have an online job that pays peanuts - according to their definition my life probably does suck. But that's their definition not mine. I tried life their way and had a well paid job, own house with mortgage and a new sports car - along with it went being physically ill, permanently emotionally drained and a nervous breakdown. Once I took a step back and stopped trying to fit their plan and started looking at what actually made me happy in life things began to improve - and it's sort of snowballed from there.

    So, I'm Aspie, happy and that's how it came about. If you want to chat I'm happy to. If not my advice is to start making changes, start with small ones, but keep assessing what makes 'you' happy or what 'worked' and build on it.

    Christine

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  • Yes, happy to chat.

    I'm 57, new to this forum and happy as an Aspie. My approach to life is 'it is what it is' and I put my welfare and peace of mind first these days. I don't socialise as it emotionally drains me for days afterwards, so I don't do it - same with anything else that I've come to recognise as 'not my thing'

    I was dx a long time ago and am now used to 'me being me' - relationships have come and gone as I can't maintain them, so I have a dog instead - and my blood pressure thanks me...

    I have 'in' days and 'out' days depending on how I feel - if it's an 'in' day because I'm feeling stressed then so be it - I treat myself to a DVD or just faff about on the computer. On days I 'have' to go out and know I will get stressed I reward myself with 'in' days doing bug..r all Slight smile

    I don't even try to 'fit in' - I long ago came to the conclusion I was happier NOT fitting in - I don't view being on my own as a bad thing - I do what I want when I want., eat when and what I want, have full control of the remote - I'm 100% bachelor girl - I believe our view of somehow thinking we 'should' fit in is basically what causes the stress - it's like pushing water uphill.

    I don't have much of what NT's push as being a measure of success - I live in social housing and have an online job that pays peanuts - according to their definition my life probably does suck. But that's their definition not mine. I tried life their way and had a well paid job, own house with mortgage and a new sports car - along with it went being physically ill, permanently emotionally drained and a nervous breakdown. Once I took a step back and stopped trying to fit their plan and started looking at what actually made me happy in life things began to improve - and it's sort of snowballed from there.

    So, I'm Aspie, happy and that's how it came about. If you want to chat I'm happy to. If not my advice is to start making changes, start with small ones, but keep assessing what makes 'you' happy or what 'worked' and build on it.

    Christine

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