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Any women with autism on here who aren't suicidal and feel happy with their lives?

NAS62611

I would really like to speak with one.

Not to be super bleak but many of the people I identified with in my life, the kind of people you'd say, 'we're alike' even if you weren't that close, are now dead. I have to ask why that is. One of only two other women with autism who I knew died recently of an overdose (The other does not seem to like me much and we no longer talk).

The feeling that 'we' are not made for this world, and how are we meant to get along in it, are very common and the evidence as I have witnessed and lived it thus far suggests probably true. Is any woman with autism here living a life they are happy with?  Is anyone here 'okay'? I would really like to have an honest conversation with another woman whose life doesn't suck - and how that came about. NOT performatively - no bullshit designed to make me feel better in the short term regardless of reality.  If you are an adult woman with autism and your life genuinely doesn't suck, can we chat?

Thanks peeps

  • I was adopted aged five. My adopted family rejected me and, from the age of 19, I lived in a mental hospital.
    After I was diagnosed with Autism I must leave and had to live on the street.
    I almost did not speak. I didn’t have any life experience. I did not even know how to wash dishes, clean my room or how to use public transport or phone.
    All the time I was fighting suicidal ideation. I was trying many different ways to stop the horrible mental pain which burned me from the inside, but someone on the sky decide to give me a chance.
    Thanks to my friends who help me. I was given a chance to improve my life. People  tried to understand and help me. For me it was unusual. I was helped to go to college. My assistant at a college saw my drawings and suggested I go on an art and design course.
    I am 53 now and going to finish university
    I don't think about suicides anymore. I really want to create a puppet theatre where we could tell stories from our live.

  • Yes I am male but fighting suicidal ideation which is a really bad obsession if autistic as you will find it very difficult but you can be strong. Try to find a role that makes you like life and feel good

  • NAS62611 said:
    Is any woman with autism here living a life they are happy with?

    Almost....

    I have learned a great deal on my life journey thus far and that has made be both aware of my vulnerabilities and my strengths.  The latter relates to determination, humanity, tenacity and resourcefulness.  Importantly, there is a realisation that I am "ok" as a person and contribute more than I take.  That I am a caring and loving individual.  However, as I grow more at peace with myself, I realise more where I am different from others in my approach and angle. It is not a threat to others it is just that they don't "get it" at face value.

    I have had lows but also great highs.

  • Yes, happy to chat.

    I'm 57, new to this forum and happy as an Aspie. My approach to life is 'it is what it is' and I put my welfare and peace of mind first these days. I don't socialise as it emotionally drains me for days afterwards, so I don't do it - same with anything else that I've come to recognise as 'not my thing'

    I was dx a long time ago and am now used to 'me being me' - relationships have come and gone as I can't maintain them, so I have a dog instead - and my blood pressure thanks me...

    I have 'in' days and 'out' days depending on how I feel - if it's an 'in' day because I'm feeling stressed then so be it - I treat myself to a DVD or just faff about on the computer. On days I 'have' to go out and know I will get stressed I reward myself with 'in' days doing bug..r all Slight smile

    I don't even try to 'fit in' - I long ago came to the conclusion I was happier NOT fitting in - I don't view being on my own as a bad thing - I do what I want when I want., eat when and what I want, have full control of the remote - I'm 100% bachelor girl - I believe our view of somehow thinking we 'should' fit in is basically what causes the stress - it's like pushing water uphill.

    I don't have much of what NT's push as being a measure of success - I live in social housing and have an online job that pays peanuts - according to their definition my life probably does suck. But that's their definition not mine. I tried life their way and had a well paid job, own house with mortgage and a new sports car - along with it went being physically ill, permanently emotionally drained and a nervous breakdown. Once I took a step back and stopped trying to fit their plan and started looking at what actually made me happy in life things began to improve - and it's sort of snowballed from there.

    So, I'm Aspie, happy and that's how it came about. If you want to chat I'm happy to. If not my advice is to start making changes, start with small ones, but keep assessing what makes 'you' happy or what 'worked' and build on it.

    Christine

  • Hey there, I am a woman with Autism, I was diagnosed with Asperger's in December of last year. I'm happy. I hope I can help? Ask me anything that you wish either on here or if you prefer you can add me as a friend and PM me.