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Life has broken my heart

Roswell

People pick on me all the time and no one gets it. I can't be myself. They try to force me to be something else and even if I dressed like them, talked like them, walked like them, they'd still tear into me.

I've heard people say look for the people you can get along with but I can't find them.

Every day I go outside I feel like crying, sometimes I do get home and cry.

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  • I've always lived in poverty and I've always felt out of place. Have any of you seen the Queen or Elton John biopic films recently released?

    It occurred to me I've been through many of the same things as Freddie Mercury or Elton John but never had the success. I'm a misfit too, have worn flamboyant clothing, am not someone who can fit into the working class expectations.

    When I was young my father forced me to read many weighty literary books. I was never allowed to get involved with anything practical. So I have virtually zero practical skills with cars, DIY or anything most working class men do. I don't like football because my dad loved it and him and I couldn't stand each other.

    I can't drive for medical reasons so do not have that car/motorbike bonding experience many men have either. In short, I just wish I had more money so I could not feel oppressed by living around people I have more or less nothing in common with. 

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  • I've always lived in poverty and I've always felt out of place. Have any of you seen the Queen or Elton John biopic films recently released?

    It occurred to me I've been through many of the same things as Freddie Mercury or Elton John but never had the success. I'm a misfit too, have worn flamboyant clothing, am not someone who can fit into the working class expectations.

    When I was young my father forced me to read many weighty literary books. I was never allowed to get involved with anything practical. So I have virtually zero practical skills with cars, DIY or anything most working class men do. I don't like football because my dad loved it and him and I couldn't stand each other.

    I can't drive for medical reasons so do not have that car/motorbike bonding experience many men have either. In short, I just wish I had more money so I could not feel oppressed by living around people I have more or less nothing in common with. 

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  • in reply to Roswell

    Most of those 'male' skills can be easily picked up from youtube videos and there's usually classic car clubs where you can go along and help out if you're that bothered about that scene.   Flamoboyant clothing will attract attention - and if you're not skilled or prepared for that attention then, as a pile of puppies do, you will be singled out for negative attention for being different.   It's an unpleasant but actually fairly normal attribute of mammals.  Humans are not very advanced from animals and when you're dealing with the uneducated, those behaviors are closer to the surface.  Football hooliganism is the normal outlet for it.

    Why not just accept that you are you - and find a place where you fit.   You may not have 2.3 kids and a BMW - millions don't - but what do you really want in life?

    Once you figure out who you are and what you want - without trying to measure up to the modern consumer lifestyle - then the sooner you can take steps to find your own path.

    I have friends who live on a boat, another who lives in a shack in the woods and another in a converted stable - and they are all outside 'modern life'.  They found their place in the world.

    Meetup.com is a social website that for meeting like-minded people - anything from coffee meetings to museum visits to exercise walking to international travel buddies - there's something for everyone - or even start your own group for whatever your interests are.