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Concerned about my adult sons mental health

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My son is 19 and has just finished college. 

Since then he stays in the house and admits he feels very lonely and sad. I am working but he rings me frequently and it is not always possible to answer the phone.

We have a dog who he said he likes to spend time with however he told me yesterday he had tried putting a peg on her tongue to see what happens he was very remorseful about this and said he did it because he was bored. This really worries me. 

He does not seem to have the motivation to do anything anymore. He has been assessed by a social worker and will be getting a personal budget and he has an organisation trying to get him some employment, but this seems to be moving very slowly.

I personally think he is heading for depression but I dont know if accessing a GP is the answer

I have suggested he start attending a group for adults with autism and he said I am forcing him to do this but he will go because he has to and only stay 5 minutes. 

As his mum I just want him to be happy and it is so difficult as loneliness makes him unhappy I need to work so cant be there all the time.

I know it is a struggle for him to socialise without my support and I  also I dont know what to do about the incident with the dog?

I would be grateful for any advice from someone who understands. Thankyou

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  • Further about the dog all you can do is tell him that was wrong and say how would you feel if some one put a peg on your tongue you wouldn't like it would you! .

    We have the same problem as we have 3 cats whom like to be left alone and only picked up on their terms !.

    Our 23 yr old Aspie will keep picking one particular cat up and also have found him pressing on its chest obviously I stopped him ! But his reply (in a babyish tone said that he was not hurting her ! I said but you were pressing down on her body but I was not hurting her I said o yes you were because of the way she meowed  !. But we do have to keep an eye on him our bedroom is a respite for the cat! But it'as if she knows he has special needs as she has never scrammed him!. 

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  • Further about the dog all you can do is tell him that was wrong and say how would you feel if some one put a peg on your tongue you wouldn't like it would you! .

    We have the same problem as we have 3 cats whom like to be left alone and only picked up on their terms !.

    Our 23 yr old Aspie will keep picking one particular cat up and also have found him pressing on its chest obviously I stopped him ! But his reply (in a babyish tone said that he was not hurting her ! I said but you were pressing down on her body but I was not hurting her I said o yes you were because of the way she meowed  !. But we do have to keep an eye on him our bedroom is a respite for the cat! But it'as if she knows he has special needs as she has never scrammed him!. 

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