Dating and marriage

My partners NT and I've only ever dated NT's. But I only found out I'm autistic a month ago. My ex has autism in her family and our son is autistic. My partner is NT but she actually works with autistic kids so she has more insight than most. 

I don't think a diagnosis or not would bother me either way. 

I truly never see myself dating or ever meeting soneone... sadly! If just seems an impossible task

I couldn't agree more! Wise words, Plastic :)

You're a girl right?  Most men would want to date you!  The problem I have is I don't know how to speak up.  I have now been traumatized to the point that I am so hurt.  Yeah, yeah.  I'm a guy and I shouldn't have any feelings.  But hurt I feel.  It didn't happen overnight.  It was over 10-15 years.  Then one day I promised to God, and I don't care any more.  Imagine the possibilities if any guy just said hi to you.

Hi!  Bye.

You are 'normal', thing is you're not 'typical' i.e. not in a majority.

But then neither are people with epilepsy, or diabetes...

Date, marry, be friends with people who can accept you for who you are.

That is all.

Have a think about the qualities of the person you are looking for and have a good think about what you like to do, your hobbies and interests, what food you like, places you like to go, and everything that makes you, 'you' and how that could be attractive to someone.

An old saying is 'there is a lock for every key'.   You just need to find that special person.

Thanks Plastic,

I haven't thought deeply about this. I may get some counselling.

It's whole can of worms.  There is a huge spectrum of NTs and another huge spectrum of NDs.   I wouldn't even consider looking at the NT or ND part - it's the person I'd be looking at and if you like each other and get on, have shared interests and a shared idea of what you're both looking for in life.

Every person is different and they all have different tastes in what they seek in a partner.  Have you looked at yourself and do you understand what you might bring to a relationship?

I also wonder what NTs think of Aspies and whether an NT would ever want to date me because of the autism