Published on 12, July, 2020
Is that sometimes facts can be interspersed with a negative picture of you that reflects a deep rooted antipathy/resentment towards you.
A picture that is removed from how things actually were. It can be as much about passing negative comment as it can be about providing
supporting details to help with your assessment. That's the situation with the letter my sister wrote.
I'm sorry to hear that your sister's report was negative. As bad as that is though, the clinicians carrying out the assessment will have a lot of experience dealing with this type of thing and will be more than able to filter what they are reading and pick out the bits that are relevant to ASD and leave the bits that are just your sister making a nasty comment. They may still ask you about it in your next assessment, but you could use it to provide further evidence of ASD, such as not being able to see things from your sister's perspective or understand what made her write such things.
Yes- I guess they must get their fare share of negative comments from other family members. There's still quite a lot of stigma when it comes to ASD.
This where I find the process difficult - your family are suddenly needed to fill in forms for something they may deny or don't understand and their accidental answers could scupper your application.
qwerty said: I like Kisun's example, being 'stubborn and argumentative' would be read as 'being fixated and have trouble seeing things from another's perspective'.
Yes I could be stubborn. My sister always used to throw out the jibe that I had to be right. It was a favourite line of attack when we disagreed on something.. Of course that meant she thought she was right and not me. Ie she had to be right. It's like her looking in a mirror and seeing me and not herself.
It wasn't all bad , I agree, just that some parts weren't as good or supportive as others.
I know. I'm just trying to look on the bright side and keep positive. I'm also judging based on my own standards. If a relative was giving me their 'opinion' of a patient, I would apply a filter to decide what was fact and what was purely their opinion, if that makes sense? I'd like to think that most clinicians could do this, probably a lot better than I am able to.