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Reframing the past and its fear/anxiety

aspiewren

I realised I was autistic/aspergers about 25 years ago, but am only now getting a professional diagnosis. I am an older woman. Trouble is, since I saw the Dr about it, and she agreed to me having a formal diagnosis, I've been terribly fearful and anxious. It's as if it IS real now, whereas before I could evade or pretend. I feel my life is falling apart because events/people in the past are being re-framed in a different light now. I feel wounded and appalled about some of the things which happened. I feel a lot of anger, too, and a deep grief. I don't want to go out and see anybody.  Have any of you experienced these kind of feelings, and if so, how did you calm down?  aspiewren

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  • Hi Aspiewren. I’m an older woman too. Officially diagnosed last year. The waiting for assessment was the most anxious time for me. I have since come to the conclusion we with the ‘label’ are essentially the same cross section of personalities and society as are in any other large group of people. Admittedly most of us have encountered problems due to our ‘different’ personalities, often being bullied or misdiagnosed. I feel much happier now I can say what the basis of many of my problems is. But I am me. You are Aspiewren right now. Welcome. 

  • in reply to Rip Van Wrinkle

    Hi Rip Van Winkle,Thanks for your reply to mine. I think your comment about the basis of your problems, and a new understanding of them is something I relate to. Bullying, too. Nasty memories around that one. In fact I don't enjoy dredging up my past to see it in this different light because the emotions are still attached to those memories.  aspiewren

  • in reply to aspiewren

    I have found a reasonably short time with a psychologist on the NHS has helped me immensely to manage such feelings and emotions. In my case PTSD as well. She has an understanding of ASD but is not a specialist. It’s been a very valuable and private space for me. Maybe it’s worth a thought for yourself? Good morning. Hope your day goes ok. 

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  • in reply to aspiewren

    I have found a reasonably short time with a psychologist on the NHS has helped me immensely to manage such feelings and emotions. In my case PTSD as well. She has an understanding of ASD but is not a specialist. It’s been a very valuable and private space for me. Maybe it’s worth a thought for yourself? Good morning. Hope your day goes ok. 

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