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I think I might have to compromise

Roswell

Most people are rude to me when they first meet me and I think it's because I dress like George Constanza or Jerry Seinfeld from the Seinfeld sitcom. Polo shirts, shirts, chinos, smart-ish jackets. 

I might switch over to hoodies, jogging pants and jeans. Sometimes you just want to catch a break off people, you know? I personally believe in dressing smart but what's the point if it makes people dislike me so much?

Sigh. I really don't like how superficial society is, and how if one doesn't go along with it, people will often refuse to open doors for you. I may as well give way to them, the masses have determined fashion. I need some new social connections, you've got to be pragmatic sometimes, right?

A bit like politics. They have to kiss babies and do a certain kind of publicity campaign or they never get into office. You've got to play the game?

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  • You could try this service: https://www.thread.com/

    I used them for a while - you go through a few pages where you click on the sort of looks you like & select colours, budget etc. then they send you suggestions for outfits.

    You don't have to buy anything and can always opt for a cheaper version of something e.g. a jacket if you like it but the one they suggest is too expensive.

    I got a few things from them but stopped once I'd got enough pieces to form the core of a new style.

  • in reply to Original Prankster

    Have to dash off for a doctor's appointment, just woke up, this looks great though, will have a proper look later.

  • in reply to Roswell

    Remember, people making fun of you usually says more about them and their fragile egos than it does about you.

    If someone feels insecure the easiest way to hide that is to make fun of how someone else looks/speaks/acts to diver attention away from them and onto the 'target'.

    How you dress sends a message to the world, you can tailor (pun intended) that message if you understand the rules - particularly if you deliberately break them.

    Just take a look at things like Harajuku fashion https://www.rebelsmarket.com/blog/posts/harajuku-style-what-is-it-all-about or the styles from the past and present, Mods & Rockers, Teddy Boys, Punks, Skins, Goths, K-pop bands, Hipsters etc.

    Fashion is tribal, possibly the most obvious signifier of 'belonging' to a group that we have...

    Problem is, I think people with ASD are always in a 'tribe of one' - we share similarities but we are very much individuals... celebrate that, wear your personality...

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  • in reply to Roswell

    Remember, people making fun of you usually says more about them and their fragile egos than it does about you.

    If someone feels insecure the easiest way to hide that is to make fun of how someone else looks/speaks/acts to diver attention away from them and onto the 'target'.

    How you dress sends a message to the world, you can tailor (pun intended) that message if you understand the rules - particularly if you deliberately break them.

    Just take a look at things like Harajuku fashion https://www.rebelsmarket.com/blog/posts/harajuku-style-what-is-it-all-about or the styles from the past and present, Mods & Rockers, Teddy Boys, Punks, Skins, Goths, K-pop bands, Hipsters etc.

    Fashion is tribal, possibly the most obvious signifier of 'belonging' to a group that we have...

    Problem is, I think people with ASD are always in a 'tribe of one' - we share similarities but we are very much individuals... celebrate that, wear your personality...

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