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I think I might have to compromise

Roswell

Most people are rude to me when they first meet me and I think it's because I dress like George Constanza or Jerry Seinfeld from the Seinfeld sitcom. Polo shirts, shirts, chinos, smart-ish jackets. 

I might switch over to hoodies, jogging pants and jeans. Sometimes you just want to catch a break off people, you know? I personally believe in dressing smart but what's the point if it makes people dislike me so much?

Sigh. I really don't like how superficial society is, and how if one doesn't go along with it, people will often refuse to open doors for you. I may as well give way to them, the masses have determined fashion. I need some new social connections, you've got to be pragmatic sometimes, right?

A bit like politics. They have to kiss babies and do a certain kind of publicity campaign or they never get into office. You've got to play the game?

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  • in reply to Tinyexplorer

    I think you misunderstand... I'm not suggesting dressing to try to fit in with a group... in fact the opposite - dress for yourself and your 'tribe of one'...

  • in reply to Original Prankster
    Original Prankster said:

    neekby saud: 'Fashion is tribal, possibly the most obvious signifier of 'belonging' to a group that we have...

    Problem is, I think people with ASD are always in a 'tribe of one' - we share similarities but we are very much individuals... celebrate that'

    I think  for aspies wearing something specifically to project being part of a distinct  group can turn on the attacks, as the group can make a point that you are different and not one of them.

    Don't try to please people who already bully you, they will become more abusive.

  • in reply to Roswell

    Remember, people making fun of you usually says more about them and their fragile egos than it does about you.

    If someone feels insecure the easiest way to hide that is to make fun of how someone else looks/speaks/acts to diver attention away from them and onto the 'target'.

    How you dress sends a message to the world, you can tailor (pun intended) that message if you understand the rules - particularly if you deliberately break them.

    Just take a look at things like Harajuku fashion https://www.rebelsmarket.com/blog/posts/harajuku-style-what-is-it-all-about or the styles from the past and present, Mods & Rockers, Teddy Boys, Punks, Skins, Goths, K-pop bands, Hipsters etc.

    Fashion is tribal, possibly the most obvious signifier of 'belonging' to a group that we have...

    Problem is, I think people with ASD are always in a 'tribe of one' - we share similarities but we are very much individuals... celebrate that, wear your personality...