• Replies 49 replies
  • Subscribers 91 subscribers
  • Views 22563 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Why do people think it's OK to be autistic?

Sickle Moon

I don't feel accepted and supported, I just feel defective, judged by everyone, and guilty for what I've done to my family. I know we're all entitled to our opinions and feelings, and that we all think differently, but I just really don't understand why some autistic people 'celebrate' it and think it's OK to be autistic when I honestly don't think there is anything less OK in the entire world, particularly when you're a woman and it's such a man's condition. I often feel my strong sense of identity as a female is being stolen from me.

Parents

  • Thank you all for all your replies. The question of me becoming a mother is a difficult one - it's a conversation for another day really but I take all of your points. The last thing I would ever want is for my child to be hurt or damaged emotionally, so I know I've got to be careful. The men I sleep with are a different story - most of them aren't respectful of me, they're rough with me and they hurt me, and they just take what they want and leave, so I feel angry towards them, to be honest. It's hard to imagine them wanting to know their child - they don't seem to have a caring bone in their body. I know feelings go deeper than this, but they don't seem to have much regard for how I feel, so...it's all very complicated.

    It's annoying because I know all the things about women presenting differently and therefore being more difficult to diagnose, but I still think of it as a man's condition and I feel the diagnosis is an assault on my femininity. I can't seem to change the way I feel. Sometimes I get even more triggered by the idea of the different female presentation - like, I know there's a special separate test for females they suspect are on the spectrum, but with me, they used a standard test, which is probably one they used for boys. I just break all over again when I think about that.

  • in reply to Sickle Moon

    I don't know if there are two different "tests", I don't think that they use different tests for male/female. Regardless of what you think aspergers affects both males nd females and it is a medical fact! You are the one that seems to have decided that it's a boys only thing, it's not, as I said and I miscounted I have 3 female friends that are diagnosed, 2 of them are as feminine as feminine gets.

Reply
  • in reply to Sickle Moon

    I don't know if there are two different "tests", I don't think that they use different tests for male/female. Regardless of what you think aspergers affects both males nd females and it is a medical fact! You are the one that seems to have decided that it's a boys only thing, it's not, as I said and I miscounted I have 3 female friends that are diagnosed, 2 of them are as feminine as feminine gets.

Children
No Data