Published on 12, July, 2020
I've just realised, partly from coming on here and reading some of the threads and partly from getting my diagnosis I have more confidence than I realise.
It relates to just saying No, I still struggle greatly with arguing my point in a discussion and often crawl back into my shell but now if I'm asked to do something I don't agree with or go on a works night out and I don't want to go I now just say no, when I'm asked why I say because I don't want to. This has just come as a revelation, whats more people dont even bother to question it any more because well you just can't argue with No!
Or maybe I care less what they think? I don't know but I'm seeing it as a positive step forward.
Does anybody else get this?
Yes I also have had the revelation that it's OK to say no. Someone I know has a wonderful saying - "No." is a complete sentence.
Like you I've had the confidence to say no to social activities at work, but I have patchy abilities to say no in other areas. Sometimes I'm compromising in my mind before I know what I'm doing, and saying "yes" whilst inner stress is building when really if I listened to myself "No" would be the right answer.
I've mulled over some related stuff here too: https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/15232/being-truly-yourself---the-struggle
I like that 'No is a complete sentence', The sentence could also have a comma and full stop
Nooooo,oooooooooo.