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Mother’s Day

I'm done with Christmas Cards
over 5 years ago

My username shows that I have had enough with sending cards just because tradition says a particular date has come round again.

Now it’s mother’s day & it’s nagging at me. I do not want to send anything to my mother. Yet I often cave in because I feel so guilty if I don’t.

Anyone else get this?

i have a particular issue with my mum as I feel she has never properly listened to me and when she did listen she always made it about her. I don’t know if it’s possible that my personality makes me see her as a narcissist (only two other people agree) but that’s how I see her.

i don’t want to give in!

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  • over 5 years ago

    I will send my Mum a card for Mothering Sunday.

    My mother is in her nineties.  She is on her own, all her sisters have predeceased her, (she had four) and she has little contact with her brothers (three of them).  She very rarely goes out of the house and if it were not for visits from my me, my sister and my brother, she would see no one at all from one week to the next.  So a card is little to pay for the joy it gives her, whatever my feelings are in such matters.

    I always think that putting something of yourself into such things is far more appreciated.  Making a card or giving flowers grown in my garden, or potted up from bulbs and (hopefully) coming into bloom at the appropriate time.  I have given my Mum hyacinths for the past more than fifty years. 

    And that is only going to stop when I no longer have a mother.

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  • over 5 years ago

    I will send my Mum a card for Mothering Sunday.

    My mother is in her nineties.  She is on her own, all her sisters have predeceased her, (she had four) and she has little contact with her brothers (three of them).  She very rarely goes out of the house and if it were not for visits from my me, my sister and my brother, she would see no one at all from one week to the next.  So a card is little to pay for the joy it gives her, whatever my feelings are in such matters.

    I always think that putting something of yourself into such things is far more appreciated.  Making a card or giving flowers grown in my garden, or potted up from bulbs and (hopefully) coming into bloom at the appropriate time.  I have given my Mum hyacinths for the past more than fifty years. 

    And that is only going to stop when I no longer have a mother.

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