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Quiet!

Bookworm

Is it just me or does anybody else just want to shout, Shut up'! I'm staying at my mum's for the night, so say, for a bit of peace and quiet but she just talks and talks.... I'm not having the best times at the moment and all I want is quiet and to shout, ' shut up'! I am the sort of person that likes peace and quiet anyway and I thought coming to my mum's she might understand but she doesn't, is it just me or do others feel liķe this? I feel really awful and disrespectful but I just want some quiet to get my thoughts together but it seems at the moment I don't have anywhere I can go to do this. I'm beginning to understand people that want to go 'off grid'.

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  • I have been known to just ask my mum to be quiet or tell her that I don't care when she's talking at me, especially when she's telling me stuff about her friends.  I mean, I don't really know these people so to be honest, I really don't care, and she has this annoying habit of saying 'my friend x...' and explaining who they are when I am well aware already (I don't know if she forgets I have met most of the people she talks about, or if she thinks I'll have forgotten, but it's very annoying). I try and act like I'm listening and interested but it just really grinds my gears sometimes. Feel a bit bad about it, but thankfully she doesn't usually take it personally. If I'm going for a gentler approach, I make an excuse to go off and do something in another room, or say I have to do some work so I can stick my headphones on.

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  • I have been known to just ask my mum to be quiet or tell her that I don't care when she's talking at me, especially when she's telling me stuff about her friends.  I mean, I don't really know these people so to be honest, I really don't care, and she has this annoying habit of saying 'my friend x...' and explaining who they are when I am well aware already (I don't know if she forgets I have met most of the people she talks about, or if she thinks I'll have forgotten, but it's very annoying). I try and act like I'm listening and interested but it just really grinds my gears sometimes. Feel a bit bad about it, but thankfully she doesn't usually take it personally. If I'm going for a gentler approach, I make an excuse to go off and do something in another room, or say I have to do some work so I can stick my headphones on.

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  • in reply to Boating_taxonomist
    Boating_taxonomist said:
    she has this annoying habit of saying 'my friend x...' and explaining who they are when I am well aware already

    That's probably better than my mum where conversations go:

    Mum: You know my friend Sylvie?

    Me: No

    Mum: Yes you do, she's Graham's sister's cousins daughter's friend...

    Me: Graham who?

    Mum (frustrated): Used to live next door to old Mrs Cobblepot, when you were at playgroup...

    Me: Mum, I have no idea who any of these people are... why are you telling me this???

    Mum: You DO know them, anyway - Sylvie said blah blah blah...

    Me: <disengages and lets the sound wash over me like surf>

    Hours pass...

    Mum: ... and that's why I couldn't get carrots for dinner!

    Me: Confounded

  • in reply to Boating_taxonomist

    I just shut down then she knows, but usually its after me making it quite clear I don't want to talk but it doesn't feel good.

  • in reply to Boating_taxonomist

    I have a fabulous alternative to headphones, also invisible under my hair. Basically I’m extremely hearing impaired and wear hearing aids (I’m 38 now so will probably be completely deaf by the time I’m 50!) anyway, if I switch them off while keeping them in it’s like I’ve got ear plugs in, I can’t hear a thing, I do this at home sometimes when my husband is particularly getting on my nerves or the children are being extra noisy. The great thing is that no one even realises.