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My partner shows no affection towards me

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Ive been with my partner for 3 years. Slowly  he has distanced himself from me affectionately. He no longer cuddles kisses or puts his arms around me.  Sexual encounters he shows no love or emotion just the need to do it. He has been diagnosed aspergers  so how he is all falls into place.  I support him but i get nothing back in return. I love him but  i feel more his carer than his partner so my feelings for him are changing as he is so distant. I dont want to end the relationship.  Do i continue as we are knowing it is how the condition affects him and accept the feeling of no love towards me? 

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  • After 35 years marriage to my autistic husband who I love very much, is hard, frustrating, emotionally damaging and extremely lonely. Your husband will never be what you want him to be. He loves you in his own way, he finds it hard to be in someone else’s space. You will always be the carer, his world is not your world, you either stick with it, knowing that no matter how hard you pray, your needs cannot be met in a neurotypical way. After 15 years of marriage my husband informed me that now we’ve had children, sex is no longer needed and from that day we’ve slept in different rooms. I’ve learnt to live with it, but not everyone can cope. My husband was diagnosed at the same time as my son. I had no idea what I was living with. 
    My children and grandchildren all have Asperger type disabilities or as I like to describe a family with differences. 
    Because my children and grandchildren are classed as high functioning help is very difficult to get. I’ve had to fight all the way and still going. 
    Good luck with whatever decision you make, I’ve walked more than a mile in your shoes, so no judgement from me. Take care. Try to talk to someone who can listen to your frustrations and loneliness.

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  • After 35 years marriage to my autistic husband who I love very much, is hard, frustrating, emotionally damaging and extremely lonely. Your husband will never be what you want him to be. He loves you in his own way, he finds it hard to be in someone else’s space. You will always be the carer, his world is not your world, you either stick with it, knowing that no matter how hard you pray, your needs cannot be met in a neurotypical way. After 15 years of marriage my husband informed me that now we’ve had children, sex is no longer needed and from that day we’ve slept in different rooms. I’ve learnt to live with it, but not everyone can cope. My husband was diagnosed at the same time as my son. I had no idea what I was living with. 
    My children and grandchildren all have Asperger type disabilities or as I like to describe a family with differences. 
    Because my children and grandchildren are classed as high functioning help is very difficult to get. I’ve had to fight all the way and still going. 
    Good luck with whatever decision you make, I’ve walked more than a mile in your shoes, so no judgement from me. Take care. Try to talk to someone who can listen to your frustrations and loneliness.

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