How To Deal with Malicious ("CUTE") Children...

How To Deal with Malicious ("CUTE") Children...

...Greetings, All. I am starting this Thread early (in Winter), before the Season for it (Summer) arrives. I have asked this question indirectly before, yet gained nothing in the way of practical help/advice. Thus I try it again now, to see if anyone has a truly useful answer...?
One situation is this: Where I (am forced to) Live, there is only one way in and one way out (without destroying a fence). Last year, 'the neighbours' decided that a common/public area was their private & safe PLAYPEN for their children to play in, paddle-in-a-pool, litter, leave toys and traps, etc. etc...
To the Adults, their own 'children'... can do no wrong, ever, and ARE just OH-so-CUTE. Children can do no wrong, ever, and this is view now protected by LAW. Even if they swear, smash windows, vandalise, litter, or decide that long-term harassment or spilling your blood is FUN... they are just CUTE children. They can upset Adults, but Adults cannot upset them, they are just being harmless and CUTE Children.
My question here, in the Main, is: How do I get past them when they decide to SWARM at me?
(Pushing past is seen as 'assault'. Reasoning with them is just seen as "Funny, weirdo - let's victimise and throw stones at them!". Asking their Owners/'caregivers'... to deal with them is seen as: "Oh they are just CUTE children, they meant no harm!" -- bearing in mind the harassment and vandalism part I just said.)
...Honest question, I appreciate some honest answers, Thanks.
(P.S. - "Autism" is too long a word for such 'children', so do not bother posting mentioning that. Some Adults recall the word "Autism", but it is swiftly drowned out by the word/idea of "CUTE".)

  • ...In perhaps a final, futile attempt, to resuscitate this Thread for answers which I cannot think of Myself, I am Thanking You for Your support, Mr. Math-Photographer. I can only think of planting stinging nettles, really...

    The problem for Me was always that it is focussed upon Myself alone., not so much my Family. It happens to me wherever I go, should the mood take the Child. I wanted also use this Thread to Rant/Vent a lot, but... well, It seems not.

    ...As I write this, I have to sign off, now, Thanks for Your Posts, and Good Fortune to You from Me, always.

  • Darn it... More from Myself. I should add that, because they are all so CUTE, whatever they say is belived. I can walk through these things-- sorry, through these "children", and if they decide to run home and say "That weirdo ran me over and hurt me!" then I get accused of whatever.

    (I think I am complaining a lot, here now, but this kind of lying often actually happens. Once I had both hands upon my IPod and tried to avoid them in walking past. Then later that same day my own Family and all of them accused Me of doing the very heinous crime of 'putting a finger up' at the CUTE Children. It was a very bad thing to do to CUTE children, and everone seemed united in telling me off... but I played my Autism Card (!), and that seemed to work - just for that Lie about Me. (I did genuinely 'show them the finger' once after that, just to see if they complained again and that time it would have been them telling the truth --- but they did not!)  All that considered, But I am not looking forward to Spring and Summer this Year... CUTE children can do so much more lying...)

    ...I think that I should sign off now, if I really am the only one that this happens to. (CUTE versus Not Cute, that is.) Also I am beginning to waffle. I would like to say so much more, but, well, I am signing off now. 

  • Greetings, anyone. Apologies (?), but I am slightly reviving this Thread again, to try to gain responses to the stated problem which would actually WORK.

    Also, I suspect, that this is yet another one of those things which only happens to Myself, and no-one else really believes or understands it. Often when a Thread is begun, others Post similar Tales... But not so specifically, in this one...? (A MOB of Children dancing to block an Adult who does not oppose them is Far Too CUTE.)

    ... Even if I reported to the Council, the Children themselves have NO concept of this and so carry on mobbing Me. Children are not subject to the LAW, and all of them as a Family, damned well know that. "Kids will be kids!" is what is said, and that is that.
    ... If I speak to the Children themselves, I may as well be a Puppy which they are Gleefully Kicking...: "Ooooh! Ha ha, what a funny noise she made! Let's do something else now or next time, to see what other funny noises she makes!"... is what CUTE Children are often thinking when they chase Me.

    However--- Yes, Indeed... There ARE very many respectful and wonderful Children in the World, make no mistake, I Myself do know that as well. It is just that none of those with respect seem allowed to stay for long where I (am currently forced to) Live. Thus I ask the questions which I asked here.

  • Either put your head down and just keep going or something like " sorry kids can't stop today" I would suggest looking angry to scare them off but that would probably make things worse in the long run!

  • Greetings again, from Me, the OP. Thank You for the advice (3 replies) so far... if it gets really bad I shall try "The Council", but as far as what I posted up there goes, it was a thing that happens in general and at least once but not the same people do all of it all of the time (if that makes sense to anyone)...

    E.G. - I used to have neigbours whose children were so "well behaved" that they had BARS on the lower windows (!)...

    I repeat my Main Question, though: Bearing in mind all that I wrote, how does one go through 'Children' when they decide to SWARM at me? 

    I live with 'my' family, and I see through windows that they  do not get harrassed or blocked or chased --- the Children actually GET OUT OF THEIR WAY... (!!!) 

    But this does not happen with Me. And so I was asking what to do in the actual moment(s), Please...? Bearing in mind all else that I said...? Anyone...?

    (I post early, before this Thread is buried completely.)

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    If you go straight to complaining to the landlord the parents could feel upset and angry that you didn't speak to them first, creating hostility.

    I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to them face-to-face and would rather write a letter explaining how uncomfortable I was by the children behaviour  - I'd get this letter checked by numerous NT folk first as I'm conscious they NT often perceive things differently from me and I'd be writing the letter to get the best reaction of of them. However, if you do feel able to speak to them about your difficulties and how the use of the communal areas make you feel this is often more effective.

    Once you've highlighted how bad you feel, if nothing changes and the parents are still not following the rules of where you live then I agree that you should speak to the landlord for their support.

    You might also want to see advice form the local PCO about the law regarding throwing stones at you as this could be assault and the law does protect you. if you look at the news at the minute there's a high profile case where a 16 year old is in court for a murder charge, therefore, it isn't a case that kids are cute and it's the law they can do no wrong.

  • If it is a communal area and they are damaging it report to landlord/council same if they verbally abuse you. Landlord should do something even if it is only to protect their property. 

    Sounds like you have some pretty awful neighbours alot of councils have tenant conflict departments or housing officers to deal with it. 

    I have personally got in trouble with housing associations twice over children's noise and mine had reasons for noise! They weren't just playing and being a pain. My eldest used to suffer terrible ear problems and got a pressure build up in his ear doctors told us to wait til it burst he screamed for 3 nights neighbours reported us I got a warning. The next time was different landlord and my daughter was suffering from night terrors and what I now know to be meltdowns but still I got a formal complaint and told to keep them quiet or I could face eviction for antisocial behaviour 

  • I understand and feel for you but have no clear answers or advice.

    I and my family suffered similar treatment and abuse by neighborhood children and teens because of who and what we were.

    Having stones thrown at our windows was almost a daily occurrence.  When our cousin from Poland experienced it for the first time, she stuck her head out from the window and started shouting at the kids. She was amazed that we just put up with it.  I explained to her that any alteration would only make things worse, verbal arguments have no effect, any physical intervention is illegal ( they are children). Parents don't care.  And after she leaves we would be left to deal with the consequences of anything she does.  So  just try to ignore the occasional stone being thrown.  Her opinion was that this society is sick.  Nobody back home would put up with this.