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Finding the right type of help

Gary

I've sat here for 10 mins so far trying to make a coherent sentence. Finding help is something I want but can't find, so far no one has been able to connect through private people. My doctor says a diagnosis is at least a year away, maybe longer. Bright sunny days and my noise cancelling ear phones are paradise to me. My family understand but .... argh I've run out of words and find it difficult to express further. Reading the other posts is good, as I'm not the only one, but also I'm sad that people are suffering without the correct help.

  • Welcome to the forum. I hope you can find some support from chatting with us all. Maybe look for online groups if they would be easier for you than face to face groups?

  • in reply to Gary

    I agree that the thought of attending a group can be very daunting. I was feeling quite confused just after I got diagnosed and had a really helpful phone call with a local support worker. She invited me along to a drop in and I decided to go on the basis I could drop right out again if I felt uncomfortable. I ended up staying for 3 hours! The place I went to also has film sessions, quizzes and games nights for people who prefer to do something rather than sit and chat. 

    The other way I found some good one to one support was by getting to know someone through this forum. We email each other now. My other recent social adventure was to meet up and have coffeee with someone I met at a political meeting. She was diagnosed with ASD about 12 years ago and has given me helpful advice on adapting to a diagnosis and getting through the next few months in a positive way. 

    Bagpuss is quite right about this forum being a very friendly, welcoming and helpful place. I enjoy meeting people here and getting to know about their interests.  

  • in reply to Sunflower

    Thanks for your reply, will do some research, however the thought or attending a group, although possibly helpful, makes me anxious before even going. Will do some research.

  • welcome - I find this forum a very friendly, welcoming and helpful place - hopefully you will too

  • It is often difficult to explain things in words. Finding the right type of help is not easy either. Many of us have struggled with it before, during and after diagnosis. 

    You could try a Google search for 'autism support' and include the name of places close to you. This was how I found a group close to where I live. I have been twice now and like the atmosphere and the people there. 

    Good that you find some reassurance in being part of this forum. I know what you mean about the sadness of hearing about suffering. It affects me a lot too. Just shows what a ridiculous idea it is to suggest autistic people don't have empathy. 

    Nice to meet you. I am glad you persevered and posted this.