Hi all .I posted about 10 days ago as I thought my husband had undiagnosed ASD .We were having counselling and I got some really helpful replies. ( Particularly from Plastic and Sunflower) Breaking news : The counsellor thinks my husband has narcissistic personality disorder! This is an absolute shocker for me and I totally didn't see that coming but when I look into it there are loads of similarities between the two and it absolutely makes sense of his self absorption and lack of empathy. Of course narcissists are virtually incapable of any adaptation and tend to be incurably manipulative so it doesn't bode well for our marriage. Given they have such similar symptoms I wonder how often people are misdiagnosed.