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ASD v Narcissm

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Hi all .I posted about 10 days ago as I thought my husband had undiagnosed ASD .We were having counselling and I got some really helpful replies. ( Particularly from Plastic and Sunflower)  Breaking news : The counsellor thinks my husband has narcissistic personality disorder! This is an absolute shocker for me and I totally didn't see that coming but when I look into it there are loads of similarities between the two and it absolutely makes sense of his self absorption and lack of empathy. Of course narcissists are virtually incapable of any adaptation and tend to be incurably manipulative so it doesn't bode well for our marriage. Given they have such similar symptoms I wonder how often people are misdiagnosed.

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  • Ermm...

    i seem to get on well with those on the spectrum but not narcissists.  My OH is a narcissist. Bottom line my OH controlled me, manipulated me, used triangulation, techniques, stonewalling, sexual and physical assault, gaslighting etc . Does that sound like your husband...?

    read more at the elephant journals.

    https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/03/the-secret-language-of-narcissists-how-abusers-manipulate-their-victims/

    If he’s narcissistic- run

    if he’s ASD - try and understand each other more

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    Thanks all for replies .There are a number of grey areas ... Yes the counsellor is a qualified experienced psychotherapist but he is unorthodox and definitely unprofessional in some ways. However my husband is controlling and the sexual assault thing is interesting as I think that has happened but dressed up as something else, in a quite manipulative way. Stonewalling -big time and gaslighting not really but frequently has accused me of being mad. I am on the AS spectrum myself but I am aware that I am manipulative so I suppose it's never totally straightforward. I am going to have to give it all some deep thought. Thanks and I will consider your comments in more depth when I calm down . At the moment I am feeling very confused 

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    Thanks all for replies .There are a number of grey areas ... Yes the counsellor is a qualified experienced psychotherapist but he is unorthodox and definitely unprofessional in some ways. However my husband is controlling and the sexual assault thing is interesting as I think that has happened but dressed up as something else, in a quite manipulative way. Stonewalling -big time and gaslighting not really but frequently has accused me of being mad. I am on the AS spectrum myself but I am aware that I am manipulative so I suppose it's never totally straightforward. I am going to have to give it all some deep thought. Thanks and I will consider your comments in more depth when I calm down . At the moment I am feeling very confused 

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