Social services removing children from parents with ASD

Hi, 

I am an autistic adult who is a parent. Since having my daughter I went through a terrible time with social services who set me up to fail and removed my daughter from me because I have a diagnosis of autism. It took me two years to fight for my daughter back and through this time social services and Cafcass used the so called deficits of my autism to justify the removal and to stop the return of my daughter. Thankfully the judge saw through this and returned my daughter concluding in her judgment that I parent my daughter to a high standard. 

I want to know how many my adults will autism who are parents have been through a similar situation. How many parents with ASD and other disabilities and or impairments are being targeted by social services and having their children removed? If you have experienced this please tell your story because the current system is outrageously discriminative against parents who have a disability and or impairment and I would like to raise awareness of the current failures within the current child protection system which is targeting parents with disabilities and or impairments so that change can happen. 

Parents
  • It seems to me, having had experience of being targeted by SS during pregnancy, that not enough consideration is given to cluster B personality traits in social workers and the fact that people with Narcissistic personalities tend to gravitate towards certain professions that allow them to weald power, of which social work is one. There is a higher percentage of these types who pursue a career in child protection than in other areas. If a parent is allocated a social worker with these traits, they have little chance of their children’s best interests being the main goal. Narcissistic people will go to extraordinary lengths in order to “win” as they see it and will do and say things that ordinary people wouldn’t even imagine which leaves the unaware parent defenceless. Lack of awareness of cluster B personalities means these behaviours pass under the radar and many people e.g. Judges and Magistrates find it difficult to believe social workers could be capable of such malignancy meaning parents are not believes and children are removed. I recommend any parent dealing with child protection to research as much as they can about the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder so they can be spotted and dealt with where possible.

  • Given our current understanding of child protection and family issues in our current times, looking at similar issues and how for example the teachings of the Catholic Church were twisted in cahoots with the Irish State in much earlier times, where infiltration and corruption was going on in Catholic circles since the 19th century, many who presented with religious vocations may not have had a genuine vocation, let alone be placed in positions of active ministry to children and other vulnerable people by the Irish Catholic Bishops at the time, examples including the Magdalene Laundries and the Christian Brothers Industrial Schools - we now know that “respectable” Irish Catholic families placed “problem” children in such places with the connivance of the Irish State, especially if a daughter became pregnant outside Marraige for example, but we also know that families of a similar mindset and background effectively forced their “problem” children to become priests, brothers and nuns, many of these priests and religious sisters leaving after Vatican II to come out as being LGBT, as when I came out as gay, I knew many gay men who were ex-priests and brothers and many lesbian women who were ex-nuns - sadly, many vulnerable people were placed in Convents and similar religious institutions in the past, where they lived lives of abject misery and even if they were lucky enough to escape such places, they were traumatised for life - being Irish myself, I know that such a horrible experience happened to my Mum as a child and she never recovered, even after I was born in 1970 - many decades later, despite her best efforts as the eldest of 3 children, she died in 2009 and it had involved disapproval of my grandparents Marraige by the local Catholic authorities in the 1930’s 

Reply
  • Given our current understanding of child protection and family issues in our current times, looking at similar issues and how for example the teachings of the Catholic Church were twisted in cahoots with the Irish State in much earlier times, where infiltration and corruption was going on in Catholic circles since the 19th century, many who presented with religious vocations may not have had a genuine vocation, let alone be placed in positions of active ministry to children and other vulnerable people by the Irish Catholic Bishops at the time, examples including the Magdalene Laundries and the Christian Brothers Industrial Schools - we now know that “respectable” Irish Catholic families placed “problem” children in such places with the connivance of the Irish State, especially if a daughter became pregnant outside Marraige for example, but we also know that families of a similar mindset and background effectively forced their “problem” children to become priests, brothers and nuns, many of these priests and religious sisters leaving after Vatican II to come out as being LGBT, as when I came out as gay, I knew many gay men who were ex-priests and brothers and many lesbian women who were ex-nuns - sadly, many vulnerable people were placed in Convents and similar religious institutions in the past, where they lived lives of abject misery and even if they were lucky enough to escape such places, they were traumatised for life - being Irish myself, I know that such a horrible experience happened to my Mum as a child and she never recovered, even after I was born in 1970 - many decades later, despite her best efforts as the eldest of 3 children, she died in 2009 and it had involved disapproval of my grandparents Marraige by the local Catholic authorities in the 1930’s 

Children
  • Positions of religious authority are another area in which narcissistic personalities are over represented. I was sent to a Catholic school in the 1970s. The teachers were all nuns or priests (brothers) and due to this experience, I totally agree with your comments. I’m now an atheist.