way to get help for suspected adult autism

Hey. First of all I am so sorry for your situation.  I was in a very similar situation with my husband. He was told he had a learning disability,  something that I have. So I saw no problem, until we got married.  I noticed  alot of things, that were not "typical". After seeking help from numerous places, no one believed me. I finally I found someone who believed me and wrote my husband a note for vocational rehabilitation services.  There, he was finally tested (at no charge to us) and was officially diagnosed as Autistic. I hope this helps. Please don't give up, but surround yourself with friends and family for support. My husband would not have gotten diagnosed I stopped at the 3rd no. 

ok thankyou I will try that :) that is similar to how I found out about myself I knew something was off since forever but after.moving in with my partner my behaviour was questioned alot and arguments from nowhere like I had no idea what I said or did wrong half the time but not meaning to? and just generally noticing how people are different around me to other I observe then after research I came to the conclusion what would you say wasn't typical? if you don't mind me asking just so I can compare the symptoms to my own 

The first 3 years of my marriage so difficult.  My husband and I were great when it was just me and him. But add another person then it got tricky. He seemed very ridged in plans we made. And got overly upset if something came up to change them. Ex: my birth father was coming to visit (I had only met him 1 day when I was 17) and his plane got delayed a day.  My husband paced the house yelling and cursing about how horrible it was. It takes alot for my husband to realize that he is not the only one who was upset. I was looking for comfort,  and got anger instead.  Don't get me wrong,  I love my husband.  He just has always lived in a bubble and his autism did not help. He would also say random things, like call for a cat (at the time we did not have one). At first I thought it was cute, but after years, it gets old. He never could make the connection that he needed to work (he lost 2 jobs). And sadly still doesn't.  He works part time and I work as a teacher assistant with special needs kindergarden, as well as part time with a special needs teen(13 hr days). He can't seem to follow more than 1-2 step directions. He doesn't seem to understand that why I worry all the time, when he lives care free. He thinks I overreact and I am controlling when I say we need to pay Bill's before going on a trip. I know he tries to, but it is very difficult for him to care/understand other people's feelings.  I have to break it down step-by-step. He feels like the world should just let him be, but unfortunately that is not reality. I hope this helps. If you think you are Autistic,  I urge you to talk to your partner.  I had to fill out info for my husband for the dr. Please feel free to contact me anytime.  When we got the Autistim diagnoses,  I told my husband, that Autism is something you have always had, it is nothing new. We now know how to better help and understand each other. 

The first 3 years of my marriage so difficult.  My husband and I were great when it was just me and him. But add another person then it got tricky. He seemed very ridged in plans we made. And got overly upset if something came up to change them. Ex: my birth father was coming to visit (I had only met him 1 day when I was 17) and his plane got delayed a day.  My husband paced the house yelling and cursing about how horrible it was. It takes alot for my husband to realize that he is not the only one who was upset. I was looking for comfort,  and got anger instead.  Don't get me wrong,  I love my husband.  He just has always lived in a bubble and his autism did not help. He would also say random things, like call for a cat (at the time we did not have one). At first I thought it was cute, but after years, it gets old. He never could make the connection that he needed to work (he lost 2 jobs). And sadly still doesn't.  He works part time and I work as a teacher assistant with special needs kindergarden, as well as part time with a special needs teen(13 hr days). He can't seem to follow more than 1-2 step directions. He doesn't seem to understand that why I worry all the time, when he lives care free. He thinks I overreact and I am controlling when I say we need to pay Bill's before going on a trip. I know he tries to, but it is very difficult for him to care/understand other people's feelings.  I have to break it down step-by-step. He feels like the world should just let him be, but unfortunately that is not reality. I hope this helps. If you think you are Autistic,  I urge you to talk to your partner.  I had to fill out info for my husband for the dr. Please feel free to contact me anytime.  When we got the Autistim diagnoses,  I told my husband, that Autism is something you have always had, it is nothing new. We now know how to better help and understand each other. 

wow that sounds exactly the same as me, it's like we  it think the other person is the problem so it's a constsnt battle with me and my partner but it's the autism part of me, so you're nagging always on our case trying to be the parent but you're not it's just a normal reaction to our behaviour well mine anyway. I think my partner knows now that I've found out what it might be and it describes me down to a t think that's why i want a diagnosis that bad so I can prove I'm telling the truth and I'm not just a ***. thanks for sharing