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Indirect discrimination?

Starbuck

I've recently been having a few issues at work where I am now wondering if it amounts to indirect discrimination.

I disclosed my diagnosis to health workers during my health assessment and HR, first aiders and necessary senior management are aware of my diagnosis.

Recently I have been suffering with numerous shutdowns and have had to have a couple of days of sick as a result.  My boss told me that he would prefer me to work from home when I am not feel well rather than coming in, making myself ill and then going off sick.  This has meant  work from home approx. once every two weeks.  A Occupational Therapist was brought in who specialises in ASD and she did a sensory profile and made some recommendations.  HR said the report was complicated and nothing else came of it.

There was one day where my boss text me as he didn't know I was working from home and since then he has confronted me to say he isn't happy me working from home and the company doesn't have a work from home policy - this is rubbish as other senior staff work from home when it suits them.  Also a senior HR member of staff said that it is down to me to manage my time and there is no policy as such, I just need to make sure I get my work done.  That seems to have all changed now.  In addition I was asked to disclose my diagnosis to colleagues which I refused.  I have now been told it looks like I am getting special treatment and eventually people will turn on me.  Apparently people are already talking and I have been told I need to disclose my diagnosis to colleagues by tomorrow at the latest or else my boss will be annoyed - not sure what the consequences will be, if any.

Is it me or is this unreasonable? I work hard and do my best to manage shutdowns etc. but work seems to think I can take a pill and it all goes a way so I am choosing not to resolve the issue.  I don't know what to do now as I don't want a confrontation tomorrow.

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  • Thank you everyone for your input and support.

    After an anxious day of going over this in my head repeatedly, I decided not to disclose to colleagues because it is just too distressing for me and I am sure they wouldn't appreciate it either.

    I might have to explore some options with HR and see whether working from home can be classed as a resonable adjustment in their eyes. I am also wary of my boss as he always said these sorts of things to me behind closed doors where no one else can hear. The whole thing is putting me on edge as I have a track record of working for manipulative and bullying bosses - especially when they suss my weaknesses.

    I feel a little better knowing I am not stressing over nothing as some of the words my bossboss said have stuck with me. Things like being more open and see all this as my development. I'm not sure what exactly I am suppose to be developing into, but there we have it.

  • in reply to Starbuck

    The hardest kind of boss to deal with is one who seems to be supportive some of the time but does confusing and hurtful things at other times. There is a risk of opening up to them, feeling that they are on your side, but then being treated very badly. Often it is because they have issues of their own - autistic people like us are very attractive targets for narcissists. The track record you describe is shared by many of us. I sometimes feel like I must be walking around with a target on my back at work. 

    If agreements about adjustments are made try to get it put in writing. I am off work with stress at the moment working out what to do about similar problems I have experienced at work. Another difficulty we sometimes have is that even if people are treating us very badly we excuse their behaviour because we feel sorry for them. Or we assume we must be responsible in some way. You do not deserve to be treated like this. Please hold onto that thought. 

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  • in reply to Starbuck

    The hardest kind of boss to deal with is one who seems to be supportive some of the time but does confusing and hurtful things at other times. There is a risk of opening up to them, feeling that they are on your side, but then being treated very badly. Often it is because they have issues of their own - autistic people like us are very attractive targets for narcissists. The track record you describe is shared by many of us. I sometimes feel like I must be walking around with a target on my back at work. 

    If agreements about adjustments are made try to get it put in writing. I am off work with stress at the moment working out what to do about similar problems I have experienced at work. Another difficulty we sometimes have is that even if people are treating us very badly we excuse their behaviour because we feel sorry for them. Or we assume we must be responsible in some way. You do not deserve to be treated like this. Please hold onto that thought. 

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