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Dealing with Diagnosis

4Sureheart

Hi everyone, about two days ago I was given a diagnosis of ASD.

To be honest this was the diagnosis I was hoping for as it does explain a lot of things that have happened to me and why i think and feel the way i do. 

However, during the assessment, I came to realise just how different I am to to a neurotypical person. This realization has made me rather tearful as a lot of things i was 'hoping to find in the future' will never happen. The biggest one being that i will never 'feel' those feelings I wanted to feel

After a diagnosis, has anyone else felt like they had to mourn the loss of something they never realized they never had?

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  • I was diagnosed recently. I have found that I am now kinder to myself. I used to force myself to do things that I wasn't comfortable with because I thought I had to act like a NT person e.g force myself to go to my wife's work Christmas party even though I knew I would struggle.

    Certain aspects of my job I struggle with and I used to get cross with myself for not performing in these areas as well as my work colleagues. Now I'm able to be a bit easier on myself

  • in reply to PINARELLO F8

    Yes Pinarello,

    i do feel calmer about certain activities. i won't force myself or expect anymore than I get. I'm learning to accept that i just don't have strong / any emotions and it's Ok. I'll stop thinking i'm heartless...it's just i dont experience those feelings. i must remember, though, not really to tell NT folk how i feel (or not) because it can come across as rude and insensitive.

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  • in reply to PINARELLO F8

    Yes Pinarello,

    i do feel calmer about certain activities. i won't force myself or expect anymore than I get. I'm learning to accept that i just don't have strong / any emotions and it's Ok. I'll stop thinking i'm heartless...it's just i dont experience those feelings. i must remember, though, not really to tell NT folk how i feel (or not) because it can come across as rude and insensitive.

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