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Dealing with Diagnosis

4Sureheart

Hi everyone, about two days ago I was given a diagnosis of ASD.

To be honest this was the diagnosis I was hoping for as it does explain a lot of things that have happened to me and why i think and feel the way i do. 

However, during the assessment, I came to realise just how different I am to to a neurotypical person. This realization has made me rather tearful as a lot of things i was 'hoping to find in the future' will never happen. The biggest one being that i will never 'feel' those feelings I wanted to feel

After a diagnosis, has anyone else felt like they had to mourn the loss of something they never realized they never had?

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  • I don't agree with you on the feelings aspect. The way it works for me is I do have feelings, or I do experience emotions, BUT they are slow. Like snail slow and slower. Often it's days afterwards that I suddenly realise: 'Ehhhh, I didn't like that at all!'.

    Maybe it is the same for you. The way you process emotions and feelings is just different. 

    And as I have discovered it has an advantage too. When eveyone stresses out and panicks, I can still act in a clearheaded calm way.

    And elsewhere I actually have described the post-diagnosis period as similar to mourning. You go through different processes. And I think most of us have thought back at where things seemed to go terribly wrong - and often your diagnosis actually helps to have some peace with those situations.

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    Former Member in reply to Blank

    I would guess it's a processing/reception difference rather than a complete lack.  Some things I seem to get an almost uncontrollable emotional response that's completely out of all proportion to the triggering phenomena, and other things it seems to be really slow or a surprisingly low emotional response.  Of the two, the slow/low responses are easier to deal with than the the completely out of all proportion ones!

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    Former Member in reply to Blank

    I would guess it's a processing/reception difference rather than a complete lack.  Some things I seem to get an almost uncontrollable emotional response that's completely out of all proportion to the triggering phenomena, and other things it seems to be really slow or a surprisingly low emotional response.  Of the two, the slow/low responses are easier to deal with than the the completely out of all proportion ones!

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