Recently diagnosed, confidence crash. What now?

Can't help with the questions, I'm still waiting for an assessment (hopefully sometime soon) but I am in a similar position in terms of uni (I'm a year into my PhD, have discussed options with disability services but can't get anything until I have a diagnosis). Mentoring is one of the things they offer too, and I can see ways it could be helpful. Particularly I'm really bad at recognising I need help when I'm stuck (and then everything ends up in a mess and everyone tells me I should have asked for help sooner and it's like ...but I didn't know I needed it) so I think it might help to have someone else on hand who can help me pick up on that better. Certainly the way it was described to me was also that they could help you work out what you needed to do for the week and things like that? So that might be helpful in terms of organisation.

There is probably more that your uni can offer though. Other things that were mentioned to me, were setting up an agreement with my department about support they can provide (e.g. closer supervision) and support for any vivas -might be worth asking your uni about these kinds of things?

You should have (or have had) a needs assessment to discuss your needs with someone before a support package is agreed and I think you have to advocate for yourself a bit. They might have a standard support package, but they should be looking at your individual needs. You could also talk with your supervisor about support they could provide; e.g. changes in the way they communicate with you, helping you find some alternative working space when your office is too much, maybe an agreement about conferences or other activities, as just a few examples (and your disability services should be happy to communicate with your supervisor on your behalf in a more official capacity if your supervisor isn't very helpful).

Thanks, your experience sounds quite similar to mine. I have been given a schedule of adjustments, which states that have trouble interacting with people and giving presentations (although funnily I've been told I'm good at those things). There are also modified viva guidelines here (e.g. avoid too many open-ended questions, eye contact etc, allow some extra time). I can definitely identify with what you say about not knowing when to ask for help - in my experience this is one of the hardest things, because after a while, people stop offering their help altogether, which is really not good.

Thanks, your experience sounds quite similar to mine. I have been given a schedule of adjustments, which states that have trouble interacting with people and giving presentations (although funnily I've been told I'm good at those things). There are also modified viva guidelines here (e.g. avoid too many open-ended questions, eye contact etc, allow some extra time). I can definitely identify with what you say about not knowing when to ask for help - in my experience this is one of the hardest things, because after a while, people stop offering their help altogether, which is really not good.