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What to tell employer about recent diagnosis?

Zomted

Hello? I’m new here! Can anyone help? I finally received an ASD diagnosis last week (in my 40s, but think that’s far from unusual for women). It’s a massive relief and pretty much explains everything. But the issue:

So I told my boss, and they’d like some info about ASD in women to help them understand? I’m a bit stumped because I can’t find something concise that sums it up - and explains the positives as well as the challenges. I’m quite ken they get both sides obviously. I have loads of info (I may have got a little obsessive about this recently... ) but I can hardly give them a whole pile of books! Also because I’ve been pretty good at masking (hence all my mental health problems...) I think they do need female specific info.

Does anyone have any ideas? 

Thanks so much for your help 

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  • in reply to Bagpuss7

    Thank you tfw7. Yes I read her book, I thought it was the most helpful thing I’ve read too. TMI for my boss though! I hadn’t realised she had a blog too, thanks for that -will have a look.

    How long ago did you get you diagnosis? Although I expected it, it still feels very strange to me. I’m not sure if you can be shell-shocked if you were expecting the shell to land?

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  • in reply to Zomted

    I was diagnosed 3 months ago, so still getting used to it. It didn't come as a surprise, I was happy with it, but even so, everything post diagnosis feels different somehow.

    Fortunately my boss has been very supportive, both before and after diagnosis. Especially actually the before i getting me to open up and talk about things. I also wrote him (I find writing much easier than talking) a list (long and quite personal) of all the things that helped me/didn't help etc. He said that was really helpful. We've subsequently talked it through as well. Doesn't mean he still doesn't so the things that annoy me, but at least now I feel better saying "you know I don't like that" etc

  • in reply to Zomted

    My boss "hasn't got time" for issues relating to my hearing loss and Dupuytren's Disease so goodness knows what she'll say if I get a diagnosis of ASD as well!