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Lonliness

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I wondered how people here feel about lonliness? I used to wonder why I didn't have friends, but since realising I have asperger's I rarely think about how often I'm alone. I have my husband but most other days I don't see anyone one else and am happier for it. I'm quite content doing my own thing and I resent the current view projected in the media that we all need a lot of friends and that only by being part of social groups can we be happy. It's simply not true. I don't wish to hurt anyone who actually is feeling lonely but I'm interested in what others think.

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  • I'm alone 24/7 most of the year. Was the opposite years ago and was always with someone. I would even go raving...I think I was sensory seeking or something because I hate noise and loud music now. Not sure what happened to those days though. Autism I guess. And I don't know if I prefer the company of people or solitude. BUT lonely. Not really. Not going out for a week does seem to make time slow down and the days feel less full than they do when able to go out and possibly say hello to a few people. BUT thats not lonely is it ?. I see that dogs have been mentioned in this thread and I must say that after many many weeks of should I shouldn't I...I got a lovely 3 yr old mutt a month ago. And she is great company and gets me out the house long enough to break the day up. I'd suggest that anyone prone to meltdowns may benefit from having a dog around. Stroking them is calming...and I must admit I frightened my dog once when I first got her and now I know the effect meltdowns have on her I have to try extra hard to hang on to a TINY bit of control. Its not easy to control the uncontrollable BUT so far so good !! because theres been less meltdowns in the last month than there usually is ! (:

  • in reply to Muddled1

    I've got teo dogs and the older one is super sensitive and feels my meltdowns coming. Unfortunately I have major issues controlling them and he gets so stressed out that I am always left with guilt feelings afterwards :-(

    The other dog isn't so much affected by anything really. But also doesn't like the meltdowns.

    It is only recently that I have noticed that the older dog senses the meltdowns coming and I at least try to control or avert them :-(

    I admire you for controlling your meltdowns!!!

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  • in reply to Muddled1

    I've got teo dogs and the older one is super sensitive and feels my meltdowns coming. Unfortunately I have major issues controlling them and he gets so stressed out that I am always left with guilt feelings afterwards :-(

    The other dog isn't so much affected by anything really. But also doesn't like the meltdowns.

    It is only recently that I have noticed that the older dog senses the meltdowns coming and I at least try to control or avert them :-(

    I admire you for controlling your meltdowns!!!

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