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Lonliness

Fuchsia

I wondered how people here feel about lonliness? I used to wonder why I didn't have friends, but since realising I have asperger's I rarely think about how often I'm alone. I have my husband but most other days I don't see anyone one else and am happier for it. I'm quite content doing my own thing and I resent the current view projected in the media that we all need a lot of friends and that only by being part of social groups can we be happy. It's simply not true. I don't wish to hurt anyone who actually is feeling lonely but I'm interested in what others think.

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  • Sometimes i feel lonely, and it does upset me. Only this weekend i felt that way, i think its more social pressure though, im meant to have a group of girlfriends and we are meant to all hang out etc, especially being at uni its such a big expectation. I hang out qith people at uni to "fit in" but i dont class them as my friends and i find it quitw tiring. 

    I also find friends i do have or have had in the past (my friendshios dont last long as i get fed up) sometimes make me feel more lonely because they realise im not as fun cos i dont want to go out and talk to all these new people they have just met roght then and there, and i also get the brain fog wherei call it "white noise" i just completly dissociate from my surroundings and stop paying attention and cant concentrate on conversations. 

    However most of the time im content, im used to being alone as a kid i only liked playing by myself and ive grown up having more fun doing things on my own  its harder then its meant to be a social thing and its odd to do it by yourself. 

    Ay the moment i only have 1 friend and i can manage, i find it hard with anymore then that sometimes

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  • Sometimes i feel lonely, and it does upset me. Only this weekend i felt that way, i think its more social pressure though, im meant to have a group of girlfriends and we are meant to all hang out etc, especially being at uni its such a big expectation. I hang out qith people at uni to "fit in" but i dont class them as my friends and i find it quitw tiring. 

    I also find friends i do have or have had in the past (my friendshios dont last long as i get fed up) sometimes make me feel more lonely because they realise im not as fun cos i dont want to go out and talk to all these new people they have just met roght then and there, and i also get the brain fog wherei call it "white noise" i just completly dissociate from my surroundings and stop paying attention and cant concentrate on conversations. 

    However most of the time im content, im used to being alone as a kid i only liked playing by myself and ive grown up having more fun doing things on my own  its harder then its meant to be a social thing and its odd to do it by yourself. 

    Ay the moment i only have 1 friend and i can manage, i find it hard with anymore then that sometimes

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