Lonliness

I often do like my own space, without having to socialise or make small talk with people. I can stay in my room for and not talk to anyone for a few days, and sometimes I feel recharged by having my alone time and space.

But sometimes, I do feel lonely being by myself for a very long time, and wish I had a close friend who can understand me, and that we can support each other. 

I often feel lonely at work, because I do most of the work by myself, while other people share projects, therefore have to less work in total, and they also get to learn from each other. Working on projects together makes it more fun and efficient, but I have been really unsuccessful in setting up these collaborations, and end up doing so much more work alone by myself.

I also feel lonely when it comes to certain activities, like going to the cinema, going out for dinner, or travelling, because usually people don't do these things alone. I would really like to have the experience of travelling somewhere, to go on vacation, but have never had the chance to do so. It is less safe travelling alone in a foreign country, especially if you're a young female. It's also really difficult and effortful to plan everything by yourself. But no one ever invites me on trips.

I wonder if anyone else feels this way?

I don't see why you should wait for other people to make your life happier, instead of taking the initiative yourself.

You can sit back and wait for people to ask you, or you can ask them to come along. Then if you don't like it, you can always go by yourself.

If you feel lonely going to the cinema, then go when it is quiet. I used to go Sunday mornings, when it was quiet and also cheap :-)

And I travelled by myself to several places in Europe. You could always go join a course you like, and make that the aim of your journey. I took language courses and travelled on my days off. It is not as dangerous as you might think at all. 

I went by myself in my twenties (and was and still am female). You just need to keep your eyes open, but it's no different from at home really.

I don't see why you should wait for other people to make your life happier, instead of taking the initiative yourself.

You can sit back and wait for people to ask you, or you can ask them to come along. Then if you don't like it, you can always go by yourself.

If you feel lonely going to the cinema, then go when it is quiet. I used to go Sunday mornings, when it was quiet and also cheap :-)

And I travelled by myself to several places in Europe. You could always go join a course you like, and make that the aim of your journey. I took language courses and travelled on my days off. It is not as dangerous as you might think at all. 

I went by myself in my twenties (and was and still am female). You just need to keep your eyes open, but it's no different from at home really.

I've tried taking the initiative, but people usually just tell me that they are busy.... and when someone else asks them a couple weeks later, they will make plans go together. 

Thanks for your suggestions about going to the cinema when it's quiet and taking language courses. I've actually never thought of taking language courses as a way to travel. It's a really good idea!