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Lonliness

Fuchsia

I wondered how people here feel about lonliness? I used to wonder why I didn't have friends, but since realising I have asperger's I rarely think about how often I'm alone. I have my husband but most other days I don't see anyone one else and am happier for it. I'm quite content doing my own thing and I resent the current view projected in the media that we all need a lot of friends and that only by being part of social groups can we be happy. It's simply not true. I don't wish to hurt anyone who actually is feeling lonely but I'm interested in what others think.

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  • Hi Fuchsia

    Good to hear from you.  I get what you are saying, totally.. For me it is down to two important things - mindfulness and respect. That is "please be mindful that to be the best person I can, I need quiet places and alone time... time to process and reflect. To re balance if you will. Please also respect me and the fact that this is my nature and not in an unsocial, arrogant, selfish way. Just at times I need to be ME and other times I will want to connect....

    When I get the urge to connect and you'll recognise that here on the forum when I am quite chattty and daft... other times when I am reaching out for comfort (I will get periods of loneliness) or to harvest someone elses knowledge to keep feeding my own bubble

    In the main though I am pretty self-sufficient. I don't fit in with alot of people... i have resolved in myself that I am what I am..but others arent so sure..so I keep myself to myself

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  • Hi Fuchsia

    Good to hear from you.  I get what you are saying, totally.. For me it is down to two important things - mindfulness and respect. That is "please be mindful that to be the best person I can, I need quiet places and alone time... time to process and reflect. To re balance if you will. Please also respect me and the fact that this is my nature and not in an unsocial, arrogant, selfish way. Just at times I need to be ME and other times I will want to connect....

    When I get the urge to connect and you'll recognise that here on the forum when I am quite chattty and daft... other times when I am reaching out for comfort (I will get periods of loneliness) or to harvest someone elses knowledge to keep feeding my own bubble

    In the main though I am pretty self-sufficient. I don't fit in with alot of people... i have resolved in myself that I am what I am..but others arent so sure..so I keep myself to myself

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    Hi Ellie, thanks for your response - I was concerned I might cause offence posting this. It's just that there's been so much written lately about how we should all be highly social, otherwise we risk increasing the likelihood of illness and early death! I'm sure it's the other way around for me!