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False Promises and Lies

Giddy

Why do people lie and say they're going to do something then don't bother it really frustrates the hell out of me when people say yes im going to do that for you and then don't arrrgghhh

it really makes me so angry ... if i say im going to do something i do it so why do people lie i would rather they said maybe or i will try but im not promising at least i would be prepared then

does anyone else suffer this problem and get really angry when people let them down ?

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  • I didn't know you'd even met my cousin! She's terrible for making arrangements and letting people down on the day. You put in loads of work to making a meal or organising your day around her, then you get the text saying 'sorry, I can't' with some lame excuse you know for a fact she used with someone else only the previous week. I've stopped seeing her for that reason. She's bipolar and I know things can be incredibly tough for her. I still love her but have had to break contact for the sake of my own emotional health.

    An 'I'll do my best, let's talk on the day' is far better, taking pressure off each participant (I tried this with my cousin and it didn't work but with most people it probably would).

    With professionals it's especially annoying. Their job, the thing they get paid for, is to help you and do what's needed. Yet so often they don't. Yes, I get angry, too. When I was able to work I would be on the dot with everything. If things had to be delayed (through other people's inefficiencies usually) I'd still keep the client or manager updated by the deadline. I find most people can forgive missed deadlines so long as we know the person is trying instead of simply ignoring us.

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  • I didn't know you'd even met my cousin! She's terrible for making arrangements and letting people down on the day. You put in loads of work to making a meal or organising your day around her, then you get the text saying 'sorry, I can't' with some lame excuse you know for a fact she used with someone else only the previous week. I've stopped seeing her for that reason. She's bipolar and I know things can be incredibly tough for her. I still love her but have had to break contact for the sake of my own emotional health.

    An 'I'll do my best, let's talk on the day' is far better, taking pressure off each participant (I tried this with my cousin and it didn't work but with most people it probably would).

    With professionals it's especially annoying. Their job, the thing they get paid for, is to help you and do what's needed. Yet so often they don't. Yes, I get angry, too. When I was able to work I would be on the dot with everything. If things had to be delayed (through other people's inefficiencies usually) I'd still keep the client or manager updated by the deadline. I find most people can forgive missed deadlines so long as we know the person is trying instead of simply ignoring us.

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