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False Promises and Lies

Giddy

Why do people lie and say they're going to do something then don't bother it really frustrates the hell out of me when people say yes im going to do that for you and then don't arrrgghhh

it really makes me so angry ... if i say im going to do something i do it so why do people lie i would rather they said maybe or i will try but im not promising at least i would be prepared then

does anyone else suffer this problem and get really angry when people let them down ?

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  • I dont know if i have ASD but i suspect i do.

    This type of behaviour is infuriating. I have a particular friend who when i suggest something says "yes we should" !then when i come to confirming, or even just ssying "rememver that time we said we wpuld......so why dont we" she has made other plans. Its only this past year and since ive been reading up on ASD that i have realised i have a different perspective.

    If i say im going to do something i jolly well do it.

    However i have also learned that because i think like this about myself i put that expectation onto other people. People have different capacities and ive realised she is just a flaky person.

    I have also realised that i dont say anything to her. So as far as she is concerned she has done nothing wrong. I dont say anything for various reasons...maybe a) i just whinge to my partner instead....b) i dont want confrontation.she is one of my oldest friends and i would struggle in social situations without her and we do have a great laugh together c) i dont want to come across as arsey.

    What ive started doing is using humour "oh im getting a complex you dont want to sed me anymore" etc

  • in reply to Deleted User

    What i also have a problem with is people who tell me how to do something a ceryain way or pull me up on doing something wrong then flout their own rules they have created.

    I often seem to never forget these things then sometimes bring them up at a later stage. 

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