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Failing to understand others

NAS39246

I have heard it said now that one of the major symptoms of Autism is failing to relate to, or understand others during communication.

Could anyone please be clearer and explain what exactly it is that they do not understand about others? And what they feel causes this inability to understand others?

Or, do you yourself feel that you do infact understand others, but the problem that causes you to act differently to how is generally accepted is something else, and that failure to understand others is infact attributed unfairlry towards you by misguided but well meaning professionals?

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    Occasional difficulties with communications were one of the things that finally led me to decide that I likely had autism.  I don't have any particular difficulties with language as such, although I do sometimes find putting my thoughts into words a bit of challenge.  I had however a number of occasions where I thought there was a clear and unambiguous understanding with people, but then they went and did different things.  At first I thought they were just being belligerent though they claimed they weren't and that I had misunderstood.  (Actually, I understood exactly what they said and could quote back the words but then they claimed I'd misheard or blah blah blah... (yeah right)).

    In the end I thought, lets assume for the sake of argument that they aren't just being bloody minded, and lets assume there's some other cause.  The only thing I could think is that somehow what I said was sometimes not being received properly by them, and what they said wasn't being received properly by me.  So it's like occasionally there's noise on the line or something.

  • in reply to Former Member

    So come 2018 "Occasional difficulties with communication" = Autism?

    The word Autism is derived from a word meaning "Mute" (does not speak), and is supposed to be apparent before aged 2 or 3. Yet now an Adult that feels they have occasional difficulties with communication with "friends" can now be diagnosed as suffering from the same disorder as those that may sit in an institution rocking in silence? Are you sure that while you are talking to your friends you are not just thinking of other things at the sametime or feeling a bit stressed because of it? why does it need to be Autism?

  • in reply to NAS39246

    Keep an open mind. Not every person with cerebral palsy is in a wheelchair. Not every person with Down’s syndrome doesn’t get a job, or even a degree. Not every taxi driver knows their way around Manchester or south London. Life isn’t about confronting people. Keep an open mind. 

  • in reply to NAS39246

    That’s fine. You are you. I am me. As long as that is clear! It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. The word autistic is just a word. It doesn’t harm anyone. If I want to say I have golden hair and blue eyes it really doesn’t matter. They too are just labels and stereotypes.

    i have work to do now. Address your issues if you want, or don’t. It really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Again goodnight. 

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  • in reply to NAS39246

    That’s fine. You are you. I am me. As long as that is clear! It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. The word autistic is just a word. It doesn’t harm anyone. If I want to say I have golden hair and blue eyes it really doesn’t matter. They too are just labels and stereotypes.

    i have work to do now. Address your issues if you want, or don’t. It really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Again goodnight. 

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