Failing to understand others

Occasional difficulties with communications were one of the things that finally led me to decide that I likely had autism.  I don't have any particular difficulties with language as such, although I do sometimes find putting my thoughts into words a bit of challenge.  I had however a number of occasions where I thought there was a clear and unambiguous understanding with people, but then they went and did different things.  At first I thought they were just being belligerent though they claimed they weren't and that I had misunderstood.  (Actually, I understood exactly what they said and could quote back the words but then they claimed I'd misheard or blah blah blah... (yeah right)).

In the end I thought, lets assume for the sake of argument that they aren't just being bloody minded, and lets assume there's some other cause.  The only thing I could think is that somehow what I said was sometimes not being received properly by them, and what they said wasn't being received properly by me.  So it's like occasionally there's noise on the line or something.

So come 2018 "Occasional difficulties with communication" = Autism?

The word Autism is derived from a word meaning "Mute" (does not speak), and is supposed to be apparent before aged 2 or 3. Yet now an Adult that feels they have occasional difficulties with communication with "friends" can now be diagnosed as suffering from the same disorder as those that may sit in an institution rocking in silence? Are you sure that while you are talking to your friends you are not just thinking of other things at the sametime or feeling a bit stressed because of it? why does it need to be Autism?

That was one part of a larger picture, but it was a key indicator for me because I could observe that lots of other people weren't having these problems in the same place. I can't for the life of me tell you why it appears I sometimes struggle to understand (it's not like I'm ever thinking to myself "duhhhh what did he say????") and I also can't understand why the norms find it apparently difficult to understand me.

Like I said, it just seems that sometimes there's a "lossy channel"...  That's observational science in action.

You would need to give me examples of what it is you do not understand.

Is it something like you hear a person at the bar say "i am going to effing kill him" and so you phone the Police, just for the Police to arrive and confirm that you did not understand the concept? and in actual fact he did not say he was going to "kill someone". Or, maybe he did but certainly did not mean it that way?!

You would need to give me examples of what it is you do not understand.

Is it something like you hear a person at the bar say "i am going to effing kill him" and so you phone the Police, just for the Police to arrive and confirm that you did not understand the concept? and in actual fact he did not say he was going to "kill someone". Or, maybe he did but certainly did not mean it that way?!