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NAS39123

hello I am new to the forum although I have viewed it for quite some time.

I am very lost at the moment yesterday after a 18month wait with my life on hold I was refused a diagnosis of asd due to the fact I have 3 friends whom I have known since childhood, he said and I quote "people with asd don't have friends"  and I don't flap my hands! The assessor said I was very good at conversation because at the begging of the assessment we spoke about motorcycles (one of my interests) and I only said that I had one and I had also ridden the same bike he has.

 had a full on meltdown at work today throwing tools and running out of the place as I think everything is just getting on top of me my meltdowns were the reason I went for diagnosis as It constantly affects my work I put this on the paperwork before my appointment  I was not asked about my meltdowns once! I have read multiple books/blogs/websites about asd and I am 100 percent sure I have it.

is there any way I can get a second opinion?

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  • It was on the paperwork I submitted that I had an interest in motorcycles so he started the conversation asking if I got to the clinic ok with the traffic I said "yes its not far from my house" he then said "I have found a really good way of beating traffic do you know what that is"? I said what's that" a motorbike me- "yes I like motorbikes I have one"  I found it patronizing and insulting to be honest

     the fact will return to the doctors citing the same problems as I have always had constant anxiety and explosive meltdowns rage or tears its embarrassing in the aftermath of a meltdown and the loss of control scares me.

    One other reason I think he gave was that I don't make plans I said I don't plans because it causes me anxiety if it doesn't work out, I visit friends spontaneously but only at there houses as I feel comfortable there, its always the same environment with the same people in it.

  • in reply to NAS39123
    NAS39123 said:
    I found it patronizing and insulting to be honest

    Oh, that does sound quite patronizing indeed! 

    Maybe you can try seeing a different doctor? You may still take about motorcycles, but a different doctor might see it from a different point of view?

    NAS39123 said:
    One other reason I think he gave was that I don't make plans

    Quite sure this is not a criteria on DSM or ICD. 

    Sorry I don't know you very well, since you mentioned making plans causes you anxiety, I was wondering if you think you feel you fit the demand avoidance profile described here? https://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/pda.aspx

    it seems to be a more sociable form of ASD but with less stringent day-to-day planning. 

    It may be that you don't fit the demand avoidance profile either, but this is one example that there are many variations of how people with autism show more of some symptoms and less of other symptoms

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  • in reply to NAS39123
    NAS39123 said:
    I found it patronizing and insulting to be honest

    Oh, that does sound quite patronizing indeed! 

    Maybe you can try seeing a different doctor? You may still take about motorcycles, but a different doctor might see it from a different point of view?

    NAS39123 said:
    One other reason I think he gave was that I don't make plans

    Quite sure this is not a criteria on DSM or ICD. 

    Sorry I don't know you very well, since you mentioned making plans causes you anxiety, I was wondering if you think you feel you fit the demand avoidance profile described here? https://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/pda.aspx

    it seems to be a more sociable form of ASD but with less stringent day-to-day planning. 

    It may be that you don't fit the demand avoidance profile either, but this is one example that there are many variations of how people with autism show more of some symptoms and less of other symptoms

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