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Being Touched

Damon

I am sure many of you have issues when it comes to touching.

If someone touches me or goes to cuddle me and I don't know it's going to happen, it freaks me out.  If I know about it, I am ok.

  • I agree i dont like bein touched unless its sum1 i no if sum1else touches me n im not xpectin it or even if i am xpecting it i will freak out because i also hav issues with germs 

  • I agree,i dont like bein touched unless its sum1 i no. Any1 else touches me if im not xpectin or even if i am i will freak out or. Wipe down my jacket because i also hav issues with germs

  • I'm fine with it, IF it has a genuine, useful context. People who lean all over me with no reason or back slap and things of that nature get a firm warning. I feel some people do it as a demonstration of strength or dominance. I don't feel the need to make people aware of my strength or see what boundaries I can cross. When I was younger I'd get into a lot of fights over it. Those guys who try and crush your hand when you shake hands make me angry too. A firm handshake is fine but when you are trying to show me that you are strong, it is pathetic and part of the mating ritual dances that I don't do.

  • As a young adult, I always flinched if people moved to give me a hug. I wasn't even particularly conscious of my reaction, but people often remarked on my flinching. I assumed it was because no one in my family was very demonstrative and I wasn't used to it and was scared of physical violence or bullying (being youngest in the family). Indeed I learned not to flinch, I think. After diagnosis, it's one of those things that you wonder about as possibly related to some innate autistic characteristic. As far as I know I don't have any particular hypersensitivity to touch.

    I always ask my autistic friends before going for a hug. Probably good practice in general anyway.

  • I'm ok with some members of family touching me, I they all check first though by asking if they can have a hug or give me a hug. I don't like being touched by anyone else.

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    I agree I prefer to see someone approach me. I think as re touching it depends upon who it is!!!

  • If I can't see the approach then I get freaked out! i.e. if someone creeps up behind me!! Like the Spanish Inquisition at times! Fear, Surprise...what was that!!