Question for adults with ASD/Aspergers

Hi Everyone,

thank you so much for reading this.

im in a great dilemma and it’s been in my head since last night and I’m trying to work out if other ppl feel the same way.

i have an urge to correct ppl.

for example it’s been very dry, it sais everywhere no bbq in local parks yet ppl still do it. I got in a argument with these 2 group if foreign ppl because I ask them whether they don’t read the signs posted everywhere in the park or don’t watch tv as it’s been prohibited to bbq any public parks even if it’s been allowed previously due to the dry weather.

again they threatened me, I called the police, etc...

i juat can’t keep my mouth shut, if someone doing something wrong I get pissed off.

i get so wound up about people Parking on the double yellow by my son’s school I have been bugging the Council for months to monitor and ticket them.

i also suffer from chronic depression and anxiety disorder.

whT I’m trying to work out as I’m doing so CBT cognitive behavioural therapy is that I get wound up because of my anxiety or my Aspergers.

is it normal I feel like that?

does other ppl do it or it’s just me?

also my 5 yr old son has Aspergers too and he is the same, he can’t stop telling kids off if they doing something wrong and he even tells adults. I have to tell him it’s not his place. But I’m wondering if he picked it up from me or it’s just part of how our brain works.

my therapists said we like rules because that’s how the world make sense. Agreed

so when someone breaks those rules I get angry because I’m frustrated with the lack of certainty.

i don’t know if any of this makes any sense to others but I hope I can get some answers.

thank you so much in advance 

Reni

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  • I deal with it at work more.

    With my first employer, I constantly corrected people who were not executing the "Best Practice." When I was made a trainer, I was able to be more productive and rational in explaining the bad habit and what is more desirable. My supervisors noticed the difference I made. They ended up having me re-train team members that weren't trained properly by other team trainers and turn their bad habits into good habits.

    At my second employer, I have a harder time when the supervisors are not consistent with their disciplinary action. I have a harder time when they do not enforce the standard operating procedures. I communicated with every tier of management to correct easy fixes. When it came to communicating "damned if you do, damned if you don't," they wouldn't try understanding me. These were things they looked the other way on, which antagonized my Aspergers. Eventually, I had to remove myself from that workplace because they weren't interested in fixing their problems. 

    The best way I can say it is "We come with an acute attention to detail." The attention to detail never stops. It is always there. I'm very attentive to my surroundings if I'm not divulging my mind into something. My go-to distraction right now is my KenKen.

  • Thank you for your response. It was very interesting to read. Yes, I have the same thing with details. 

    What is a KenKen if you don’t mind me asking, maybe I’m too old to know these things.

  • KenKen is a puzzle book similar to Sudoku, except it uses math.

    From the back of the book:

    ”At Home, while commuting, during lunch hours... take KenKen with you wherever you go!

    Your challenge: Use basic math - addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division - while also exercising your logic and problem-solving skills. The more you think ahead to your next move and consider all possible outcomes, the better you’ll get!“

    I’m on brown belt. I am loving the challenge and on my 99th puzzle out of 300. It’s satisfying my hunger to give me a challenge and taking my mind off of things, which I normally get from video games.

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  • KenKen is a puzzle book similar to Sudoku, except it uses math.

    From the back of the book:

    ”At Home, while commuting, during lunch hours... take KenKen with you wherever you go!

    Your challenge: Use basic math - addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division - while also exercising your logic and problem-solving skills. The more you think ahead to your next move and consider all possible outcomes, the better you’ll get!“

    I’m on brown belt. I am loving the challenge and on my 99th puzzle out of 300. It’s satisfying my hunger to give me a challenge and taking my mind off of things, which I normally get from video games.

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