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FallenPhoenix92

Hello everyone I'm Jack,

My first time being on here and I hope I can meet some nice friendly people here. I'm 26, Autistic and Single (Booooooo), Don't really socialize very well but trying to be more active but I am currently going through ALOT in my life.

First and foremost - My poor mother is terminally ill and I don't know how I'll be able to cope when she passes, more hard times are coming my way.

Second - Middle of October last year I had my heart broken, This girl I had been friends with for like 4 years just went for another guy literally out of nowhere and we had promised one another that we'd become a couple in the future (she was married for a few years in that time), I treated her like she was the only girl I could ever look at and she just tossed me aside..... I'm not completely over it as I will be (at this point as I type this) going to see a therapist next week to help me get my mind back on track. This happened before my mother was diagnosed and when she did get it, for a little while I contemplated suicide.... I didn't hurt myself or anything but I considered ending my life for a few weeks.

And Finally - I can't seem to find a job I'll be comfortable with. I don't really like people and I don't drive (not right now anyway) so getting to a job and dealing with people at said job and even doing the job....terrifies me.

But I really really really want to start earning for myself, have my own place and be independent, I'm just so sick of how my life has turned out right now and I need something to help me kick start a future for myself.

Any thoughts and advice are greatly appreciated :)

Jack (My profile name is my Game Name as I play games)

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  • Welcome Jack,

    I'm about the same age as you (27 here) and lost my dad last November to prostate cancer. It's a really rough thing to go through and you have my sympathy and best wishes. :(
    It seems that very little support is available at our age when losing a parent- all the "parent bereavement support" organisations are aimed at children, the online support groups just seem full of people in their 50s who have already long settled with their own families. Is your dad (or siblings if you have them) on the scene or is it just you and your mum? 

    Feel free to PM if you just want to chat to someone who's been there (it's fine if you don't want to, and the offer remains open should you ever need it). Hope she's getting the best medical care possible and she's comfortable, anyway. x


    Glad you're getting yourself back on track after your romantic trouble as well, it does seem like all the rubbish in life comes at once sometimes. Good on you for getting through this combination of events as well as you have, staying alive and getting yourself help!

    Re. employment, when I was first looking for work I started by volunteering with some charities and it did give me some new ideas/insight about the sort of things I enjoyed/would like to do, as well as easing me in to social skills in the context of work. I've eventually found my niche in education (I'm a lab tech; all the fun of science teaching, none of the paperwork lol. Also I get to be the magic person who mends everything, which I quite enjoy). 

    I don't drive either, it can be an absolute logistical pain! I do have an electric bicycle that I can go a decent distance on though; would recommend them as a vehicle. No lessons, no tax or insurance, very tiny fuel costs (charges off the mains). Gives you a lot of independence compared to using public transport and is far cheaper!

    Emma 

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  • Welcome Jack,

    I'm about the same age as you (27 here) and lost my dad last November to prostate cancer. It's a really rough thing to go through and you have my sympathy and best wishes. :(
    It seems that very little support is available at our age when losing a parent- all the "parent bereavement support" organisations are aimed at children, the online support groups just seem full of people in their 50s who have already long settled with their own families. Is your dad (or siblings if you have them) on the scene or is it just you and your mum? 

    Feel free to PM if you just want to chat to someone who's been there (it's fine if you don't want to, and the offer remains open should you ever need it). Hope she's getting the best medical care possible and she's comfortable, anyway. x


    Glad you're getting yourself back on track after your romantic trouble as well, it does seem like all the rubbish in life comes at once sometimes. Good on you for getting through this combination of events as well as you have, staying alive and getting yourself help!

    Re. employment, when I was first looking for work I started by volunteering with some charities and it did give me some new ideas/insight about the sort of things I enjoyed/would like to do, as well as easing me in to social skills in the context of work. I've eventually found my niche in education (I'm a lab tech; all the fun of science teaching, none of the paperwork lol. Also I get to be the magic person who mends everything, which I quite enjoy). 

    I don't drive either, it can be an absolute logistical pain! I do have an electric bicycle that I can go a decent distance on though; would recommend them as a vehicle. No lessons, no tax or insurance, very tiny fuel costs (charges off the mains). Gives you a lot of independence compared to using public transport and is far cheaper!

    Emma 

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