knowing the unknown - new diagnosis

Hello Liz. I don't know if i cope well enough socially myself to give any advice other than if you find yourself in the majority with anything in life, you are usually doing something wrong. I know that isn't always a consolation when you are wanting to feel a connection with someone but its not us that need to change. I recently went through some counselling sessions which were based around focusing on the things I do well rather than things that I struggle with. It certainly put me in a more positive frame of mind.

I shall write a list of things i enjoy and do well and focus on those. Its all advice, even if you just suggest what not to do, it helps. I think i just need to find myself and know myself a little better, rather than wishing i was like someone else. Perhaps then things will be easier? 

I shall write a list of things i enjoy and do well and focus on those. Its all advice, even if you just suggest what not to do, it helps. I think i just need to find myself and know myself a little better, rather than wishing i was like someone else. Perhaps then things will be easier? 

Sometimes easier said than done but we can but try

oh, that is a good point. I actually have no come back for that because you're right 

I think everyone, autistic or not, can stand to gain from showing themselves a little more love and acceptance. The analogy I was given by someone was that if a toddler didn't do a very good job with a task, you would't be really harsh on them, you would be kind and encouraging. So why do we beat ourselves up so badly?