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Communication in difficult situations

Lana55

Is it common for autistic adults to communicate indirectly through analogies from music, pictures, or jokes (such as https://www.facebook.com/pagefordelusions/) when they try to express themselves in difficult situations that can't be conveyed well enough through direct communication? Don't autistic people tend to be rather direct, instead?

By difficult situations I mean vulnerable situations, such as talking about romantic feelings or those related to a very bad meltdown. 

I'm asking because there's a lot of room for interpretation and ambiguity during indirect communication, which leaves me wondering if I'm "reading the signals" correctly or just imaging things. I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

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  • I have become aware that large chunks of my 'conversation' rely heavily on the use of 'figures of speech' - cliches, quotes, tags, analogies etc. I'm sure I do this much more than other people. Being aware of this is one of the reasons I avoid talking to people or feel very uncomfortable after doing so.

  • in reply to Fuchsia

    Hi Fuchsia

    Is that done to your own performance anxiety when engaging with people? So, when you’re put on the spot by people you are less familiar with, or just generally? 

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    Just generally I think Ellie, I can't pinpoint when this started but it must be many years ago.I don't know if it's a sort of safety mechanism - if I'm quoting someone else I'm fairly certain of saying something acceptable. Providing it's appropriate! I used to use a very elaborate, complex vocabulary (long/obscure words etc.) and syntax too but I don't do that so much now. I think even I realised it was a bit weird.

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    Just generally I think Ellie, I can't pinpoint when this started but it must be many years ago.I don't know if it's a sort of safety mechanism - if I'm quoting someone else I'm fairly certain of saying something acceptable. Providing it's appropriate! I used to use a very elaborate, complex vocabulary (long/obscure words etc.) and syntax too but I don't do that so much now. I think even I realised it was a bit weird.

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