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Communication in difficult situations

Lana55

Is it common for autistic adults to communicate indirectly through analogies from music, pictures, or jokes (such as https://www.facebook.com/pagefordelusions/) when they try to express themselves in difficult situations that can't be conveyed well enough through direct communication? Don't autistic people tend to be rather direct, instead?

By difficult situations I mean vulnerable situations, such as talking about romantic feelings or those related to a very bad meltdown. 

I'm asking because there's a lot of room for interpretation and ambiguity during indirect communication, which leaves me wondering if I'm "reading the signals" correctly or just imaging things. I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

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  • I use. Analogies a great deal. It helps me to explain what I mean. Often I lack ability to put general waffle into my explanation therefore by adding a storyline with pictures and variables not specific to the “fact” helps the listener to stay awake and become hooked into the storyline.  just giving facts can be very boring for whoever is listening.

    Humour and fun are not my strongest attributes! I have so little,,,Heres a Lol...better?

    Analogies are also my way of showing my thoughts especially when I cannot find grand words or poetic quotes to give the depth of my mind. I keep it real, basic but with much meaning and hopefully it is understood. Or not?

    edited to correct inaccuracies,,,sorry.

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  • I use. Analogies a great deal. It helps me to explain what I mean. Often I lack ability to put general waffle into my explanation therefore by adding a storyline with pictures and variables not specific to the “fact” helps the listener to stay awake and become hooked into the storyline.  just giving facts can be very boring for whoever is listening.

    Humour and fun are not my strongest attributes! I have so little,,,Heres a Lol...better?

    Analogies are also my way of showing my thoughts especially when I cannot find grand words or poetic quotes to give the depth of my mind. I keep it real, basic but with much meaning and hopefully it is understood. Or not?

    edited to correct inaccuracies,,,sorry.

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    However words are dressed it is that they are honest and from your true self that is key. Grand words, quotes and poems are flamboyance and window dressing but under those, there is a ME. 

    There can be great gaps in time in between being given the opportunity to speak and be heard. To keep my mind busy I use that time to think of what it Is I want to say. This mental finger twirling whilst I’m waiting gives me time to associate what I want to say against other references such as books etc.

    out if interest do you think it creates more of a barrier to communication, or a benefit?