I've just lost my best friend

I've just received a message from who I thought was my best friend of over a year saying that, although she thinks I'm 'kind' and 'always want to do my best for everyone' I'm also 'too emotional' and 'downright annoying' (these are all direct quotes) and she never wants to speak to me again; she's asked me to not to contact her. This has come out of the blue; I swear I have done absolutely nothing...or at least I don't think I have. She didn't say I'd done anything, just that she 'doesn't like my personality' and she hopes I'll 'cherish the memories of our friendship, even though she doesn't want to be friends anymore'.

This has sent me into a spiral of despair, but I know she has every right to end the friendship if she's not happy. Am I overreacting? How will I get over this? Am I going to fail every friendship I'm in for the rest of my life? It's devastating, and all the worse for having been given no right of reply and no clear explanation, apart from the fact that 'she needs to concentrate on herself and I'm too emotional'. Which I suppose is fair enough...do I have a right to be upset?

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  • No, you are not overreacting. It’s not good that she will not discuss it with you or explain better. It may be she hasn’t any patience. The problem could be on her side even, or 50/50. If two people don’t gel it’s often nobody’s fault. Maybe you had differing ideas and expectations of the nature of your friendship.  It would be better if she told you what she meant. A true friend would. I hope you find someone who accepts you as you are. It really is worthwhile! 

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