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I've just lost my best friend

Angel Cake

I've just received a message from who I thought was my best friend of over a year saying that, although she thinks I'm 'kind' and 'always want to do my best for everyone' I'm also 'too emotional' and 'downright annoying' (these are all direct quotes) and she never wants to speak to me again; she's asked me to not to contact her. This has come out of the blue; I swear I have done absolutely nothing...or at least I don't think I have. She didn't say I'd done anything, just that she 'doesn't like my personality' and she hopes I'll 'cherish the memories of our friendship, even though she doesn't want to be friends anymore'.

This has sent me into a spiral of despair, but I know she has every right to end the friendship if she's not happy. Am I overreacting? How will I get over this? Am I going to fail every friendship I'm in for the rest of my life? It's devastating, and all the worse for having been given no right of reply and no clear explanation, apart from the fact that 'she needs to concentrate on herself and I'm too emotional'. Which I suppose is fair enough...do I have a right to be upset?

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  • Hi Angel Cake. Sorry to hear you’re going through something familiar to me. I would try perhaps too hard to keep friends, and that made them run away! I was too intense, too caring and perhaps suffocated our friendship. On the other hand, some were not good friendships. I was taken advantage of. In the long run the good friendship or two has persevered and we are still friends, but each have our own space and lives. Friendship was described to me like holding fine sand. Squeeze it and it trickles away.  Cradle it gently and it stays in your hands. 

    I agree with what the other replies have said. It will pass. You WILL find someone who appreciates you. If this was a good friendship it will return to being so. Your friend might be having their own problems. Never give up. 

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  • Hi Angel Cake. Sorry to hear you’re going through something familiar to me. I would try perhaps too hard to keep friends, and that made them run away! I was too intense, too caring and perhaps suffocated our friendship. On the other hand, some were not good friendships. I was taken advantage of. In the long run the good friendship or two has persevered and we are still friends, but each have our own space and lives. Friendship was described to me like holding fine sand. Squeeze it and it trickles away.  Cradle it gently and it stays in your hands. 

    I agree with what the other replies have said. It will pass. You WILL find someone who appreciates you. If this was a good friendship it will return to being so. Your friend might be having their own problems. Never give up. 

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