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I've just lost my best friend

Angel Cake

I've just received a message from who I thought was my best friend of over a year saying that, although she thinks I'm 'kind' and 'always want to do my best for everyone' I'm also 'too emotional' and 'downright annoying' (these are all direct quotes) and she never wants to speak to me again; she's asked me to not to contact her. This has come out of the blue; I swear I have done absolutely nothing...or at least I don't think I have. She didn't say I'd done anything, just that she 'doesn't like my personality' and she hopes I'll 'cherish the memories of our friendship, even though she doesn't want to be friends anymore'.

This has sent me into a spiral of despair, but I know she has every right to end the friendship if she's not happy. Am I overreacting? How will I get over this? Am I going to fail every friendship I'm in for the rest of my life? It's devastating, and all the worse for having been given no right of reply and no clear explanation, apart from the fact that 'she needs to concentrate on herself and I'm too emotional'. Which I suppose is fair enough...do I have a right to be upset?

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  • Glad Tidings to AngleCake from myself, certainly...!

    I recall some of your previous Posts and so I for one am glad to see you are well and strong enough to Post again... well done to you. I voted up the other answers because this post from myself may not be all that helpful, but I support you anyway. When people do things like this, then you find out who your TRUE friends really are. Your friend may need some "space"/time alone, due to troubles they do want want to discuss...

    My own Point-Of-View may seem bad: I have no "friends", for if they have troubles, I cannot always help them. Sometimes a "friend" may be feeling so very emotional that they feel better by taking out their troubles upon someone who understands/can take it... just listen, understand, and wait and see what happens to them...

    Angel Cake said:
    'she needs to concentrate on herself and I'm too emotional'. Which I suppose is fair enough...do I have a right to be upset?

    ...as I said, there. And YES, you are perfectly alright to "be upset". If she is a true friend, then once she is over whatever it is, then you may or she may... reinitiate your friendship. (The problem is what to do in the meantime...?) Good Luck to you from myself, anyway.

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  • Glad Tidings to AngleCake from myself, certainly...!

    I recall some of your previous Posts and so I for one am glad to see you are well and strong enough to Post again... well done to you. I voted up the other answers because this post from myself may not be all that helpful, but I support you anyway. When people do things like this, then you find out who your TRUE friends really are. Your friend may need some "space"/time alone, due to troubles they do want want to discuss...

    My own Point-Of-View may seem bad: I have no "friends", for if they have troubles, I cannot always help them. Sometimes a "friend" may be feeling so very emotional that they feel better by taking out their troubles upon someone who understands/can take it... just listen, understand, and wait and see what happens to them...

    Angel Cake said:
    'she needs to concentrate on herself and I'm too emotional'. Which I suppose is fair enough...do I have a right to be upset?

    ...as I said, there. And YES, you are perfectly alright to "be upset". If she is a true friend, then once she is over whatever it is, then you may or she may... reinitiate your friendship. (The problem is what to do in the meantime...?) Good Luck to you from myself, anyway.

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